Opposite Gender Concerns

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Re: are you allowed to have friends?

Salaam,

Thank you, and allamdulahlah . mshalalah sister Love it!

 

[chacha_jalebi]

What Do You Lots Think Of Girls & Boys Being Mateys?

salaam

now now now what do you lot think of girl & boy friendships? are they allowed? im talking bout the proper friendships not ones that are friends for like 3-4 days then they start going out & get dumped & move on i mean like geniune friendships!!!

like everybody is judged on their intentions & Allah (swt) knows your intentions better then anyone & even if you have the right intentions, so is it advisiable? because its hard to avoid, i.e - work places, school, uni & you get put in the same groups and stuff so you gotta interact, but to have friendships? huh huh huh??

what you lots think???

chank you

 

[Kittygyal]

Re: What Do You Lots Think Of Girls & Boys Being Mateys?

salam.
translate breda

oh well if you intention is NOT in bad way am sure it's okay
w.salam

 

[MusLiM 4 LiFe]

Re: What Do You Lots Think Of Girls & Boys Being Mateys?

**** ma eyes hurtn now :-\ 2 many

anyhoooooo, any sort of relationship wid da opposite gender iz haram

 

[S_87]

Re: What Do You Lots Think Of Girls & Boys Being Mateys?



well i think theres a difference between having collegues/ classmates and actual friends.

even if ones intentions are pure the shaytaan is always there. ...

 

[chacha_jalebi]

Re: What Do You Lots Think Of Girls & Boys Being Mateys?

true say^ about the classmate things,

shaytan is the 3rd when a man and woman are alone - bukhari hadiths

 

[DaNgErOuS MiNdS]

Re: What Do You Lots Think Of Girls & Boys Being Mateys?

Frienships with opposite genders are the beggining of many sins and problems.

 

[MusLiM 4 LiFe]

Re: What Do You Lots Think Of Girls & Boys Being Mateys?

so leave us alone n we'l leave u alone

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

Re: What Do You Lots Think Of Girls & Boys Being Mateys?

:salamext:

dis might help inshaAllah

http://www.islamqa.com/index.php?ref=20949&ln=eng&txt=girlfriend

:wasalamex

 

[Kittygyal]

Re: What Do You Lots Think Of Girls & Boys Being Mateys?

salam.
if you think about it, many people do have friend like brother && sister hood so inshallah if you think in such an intention like "oh am going to talk to this sister or brother just to make her feel better inshallah" then am sure that is allowed but if your going to think in such away like "oh am going to talk to this siter or brother because he/she is fit" then thats bad but i mean Allah knows your intentions && what you do so there's no problem bought that but remember Allah will ask you when you leave your soul behind you will be questioned &7 we ALL will so lets think about it to our self's cause this can lead to way out of line where many people have break outs just cause of friendshaip also it can lead to a big mission where involves alot of mixed Gender so therefore we need to remeber Allah i watching us all the time 24hrz && can hear us so we can't hid from him nor we can whisper maybe others don't know but Allah does

also about class mates or collegues is different because you need to have friendship in such away, friendship does not mean just BF && Gf i mean you can have friendship with your parents you need to trust them have faith in Allah && Allah will give you such a people that you will love to have friendship with them, friendship combines brotherhood && sisterhood.
w.salam

 

[MusLiM 4 LiFe]

Re: What Do You Lots Think Of Girls & Boys Being Mateys?

yeah ^ i guess if u helpin out another bro or sis den its aite, and if u have good intentions 4 givin dem advice or whatever das aite i guess.. but other things like sis sed "oh he/she buff das y ima get in der" dats wrong n obviously haram. but at da end of da day Allah knows ur intentions and ur going to have to answer 2 Him so keep ur intentions clean and safe yh, dnt go round imitatin da kaafirs..

 

[chacha_jalebi]

Re: What Do You Lots Think Of Girls & Boys Being Mateys?

well thats what i said genuine good friendships and it does depend on your niyyah

 

[MusLiM 4 LiFe]

Re: What Do You Lots Think Of Girls & Boys Being Mateys?

yeh course u did.. ma xplanation woz better tho

 

[Ghazi]

Re: What Do You Lots Think Of Girls & Boys Being Mateys?



Ermm it's cool to have a repor with a person but stuff like free-mixing thats a big no,no.

 

[Kittygyal]

Re: What Do You Lots Think Of Girls & Boys Being Mateys?

well thats what i said genuine good friendships and it does depend on your niyyah

salam.
whats Niyyah?
w.salam

 

[- Qatada -]

Re: What Do You Lots Think Of Girls & Boys Being Mateys?

**** ma eyes hurtn now :-\ 2 many

anyhoooooo, any sort of relationship wid da opposite gender iz haram

:salamext:


Just wna point out that let's keep an eye out on wa we say.. because a relationship between a guy and a gyal is allowed IF they're married. you get me?

I know it's obvious, but if some non muslim or new muslim saw it, they would be shocked, so just want to point that out.


jazak Allaahu khayr.


Allaah Almighty knows best.


:wasalamex

 

[MusLiM 4 LiFe]

Re: What Do You Lots Think Of Girls & Boys Being Mateys?

oopz :$

niyaah is intention sis kittygal

 

[Helena]

Re: What Do You Lots Think Of Girls & Boys Being Mateys?

let moi summarise it all.....

having a genuine friendship discssing ur uni work, in work place or any schools shud only take place in that areas...but exchanging numbers, chatting on msn...it cud lead to something else...as its a girl and boy friendship....we shud remember as jalebi bro pointed out...the third person...shaytan is always included...u can never leave widout him...or the saytan can never leave u alone.....gotta be careful...try not to fall to fitnah...as there many ways falling into it............

is there such thing as boy and girl frienship????.............

 

[- Qatada -]

Re: What Do You Lots Think Of Girls & Boys Being Mateys?

Why a Close Friendship between a Man and a Woman Is Un-Islamic​

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3/11/2004 9:00:00 AM GMT

As-Salamu `alaykum. My son asks me for proof when I tell him he cannot have girls for friends, for purposes other than doing school work, or dealing with colleagues at work, if they are not isolated.



Answer

Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.


In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.



All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.


Dear brother, thanks for your interesting question, which reflects your deep belief in the fact that Islam has answers for every problem facing mankind. Our utmost wish is just for all of us to adhere to the teachings of this great religion which came to save mankind from the peril of succumbing to the material life, to rescue them from darkness of following whims and self inclinations to the light of guidance and eternal prosperity.

Regarding your question, Muslims should have good relations with all people, both males and females. At school, at work, in your neighborhood, etc., you should be kind and courteous to everyone. However, it is not allowed in Islam to take a non-mahram person or persons of the opposite gender as a very close friend. This kind of friendship often leads to haram.


Answering your question, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior lecturer and an Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada, states:


"It is common knowledge that in Islam, fornication and adultery are grave sins and committing either bears serious consequences in this world and the Hereafter.

However, what is not so well known is that while declaring fornication and adultery as haram (forbidden), Islam does not merely forbid the actual acts, but it also declares as forbidden each and every circumstance or way that leads to fornication and adultery. Allah says, “Do not come near fornication, for it is indeed lewdness and an evil life-style.” (Al-Isra': 32)

Explaining this, the Prophet said, “The fornication of the eyes is staring, the fornication of the ears is listening, the fornication of the tongue is talking, the fornication of the hands is holding, the fornication of the feet is walking, the fornication of the heart/mind is craving and lusting, and finally, the private parts confirm or negate it.” He also said, “Staring is one of the arrows of Satan.” In another report, he said, “You are allowed to have the first accidental look (which is unintentional), but do not continue to stare.”

The laws of Islam are from Allah, our Creator, who knows our weaknesses as well as our strengths better than we can ever do. Women, by nature, desire to be looked at, adored and cherished, while man is inclined to look at women. Allah, the Almighty therefore, warns us against our own natures, which may lead us astray if we do not exercise caution and take the necessary safeguards. Thus, Allah, the Almighty said, “Say to the believing men to lower their gazes and guard their chastity… And say to the believing women to lower their gazes and guard their chastity and not to display their charms in public.” (An-Nur: 30-31)

Having friendship with members of the opposite gender may lead to staring, lustful thoughts, flirtatious behavior and seduction. Although it may not always be the case, there is no way to tell when it could happen and when it would not happen. That is why it is forbidden to mingle and mix freely with members of the opposite sex and to develop friendships with them. It is all part of zina (fornication), which Allah and His Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) strongly ordered us to abstain from.


Allah, the Almighty has given us laws in order to guard us against the evils that are inherent in our own souls. One recent study conducted about male-female interaction in the workplace concluded that one in every three women had been sexually involved with a co-worker or boss. If this is the case in a professional, business-like environment, then the potential for illicit relations in more casual circumstances has much greater potential. Thus, Allah, the Almighty has been most gracious by not only forbidding fornication and adultery, but also by closing all the doors that lead to them."


http://www.islamonline.com/cgi-bin/news_service/fatwah_story.asp?service_id=376
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[MusLiM 4 LiFe]

Re: What Do You Lots Think Of Girls & Boys Being Mateys?

its evil.. stay away 4rm it

n those ppl hu cnt resist ^o) ramadanz comin soon, set some targetz "keep away 4rm (girl or boys name)