Polygamy?

I personally wont marry multiple wives but thats because of my weakness: I wont be able to do justice to all of them. I however Islamically support all brothers and sisters who are in polygamous relationships and have the strength to handle these relations according to Islam.

@ Laura: yea finding the right partner by taking her to the bed eh? So you find a possible partner, talk to her find yourself getting more interested, take her to the bed to analyze here there (most men will make their criteria stringent after this point after they have taken the same woman to the bed several times, they realize shes "just" not right for him) and then when all is said and done and everything worked out, you marry her when you are in mid 30s. Right? Thats your conception right? and women seem to be fine with it "hes one real bad boy, I wanna date him"
 
τhε ṿαlε'ṡ lïlÿ;1336480 said:
How much 'data evidence' does your ladyship require to be a believer vs. the hardcore truth of well your personal opinion?
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It was you that claimed you had supported all your posts with data. I don't think it's really needed, when it comes to polygamy I'd say it is more emotion and personal opinion that matters. How the husband and wife feels about it. People may have had affairs, but this doesn't mean they'd necessarily want to marry that person.

mad_scientist said:
@ Laura: yea finding the right partner by taking her to the bed eh? So you find a possible partner, talk to her find yourself getting more interested, take her to the bed to analyze here there (most men will make their criteria stringent after this point after they have taken the same woman to the bed several times, they realize shes "just" not right for him) and then when all is said and done and everything worked out, you marry her when you are in mid 30s. Right? Thats your conception right? and women seem to be fine with it "hes one real bad boy, I wanna date him"
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It's more than just taking the person to bed to find out if you're compatible. People may spend years in a relationship before they get married because they just don't feel ready for it yet. They may move in together and then find they don't get on as well as they thought. I personally have no problem with realtionships before marriage I think people should be completely comfortable with each other before they decide to spend the rest of their lives together and know they can live together.
 
LauraS said:
It was you that claimed you had supported all your posts with data. I don't think it's really needed, when it comes to polygamy I'd say it is more emotion and personal opinion that matters. How the husband and wife feels about it. People may have had affairs, but this doesn't mean they'd necessarily want to marry that person.

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I think it is futile to expect any form of intelligible communication by your person!
 
τhε ṿαlε'ṡ lïlÿ;1336656 said:
I think it is futile to expect any form of intelligible communication by your person!
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To be honest if you couldn't understand that post it's your intelligence that needs to be questioned....
 
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Mr. Peace maker is here : Ok girls lets not go off-topic. Continue your arguments through inbox messages or sort out your differences.

Peace is what we want.:shade::exhausted
 
if everyone in the situation agrees then whatever floats their boat.

if not then whoever is opting for another wife/husband is being unfair.
 
Mohamed_Sadiq said:
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Mr. Peace maker is here : Ok girls lets not go off-topic. Continue your arguments through inbox messages or sort out your differences.

Peace is what we want.:shade::exhausted
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lol! Sorry, we'll stop ruining your thread now. :D

Lynx- I suppose that just sums it up really! I don't agree but if everyone is truly happy with it then it's up them I suppose.
 
Assalamo alaykom,

I don't find polygamy bad, but I don't find it necessary either. A man should be satisfied with one wife, he doesn't really need one, two or three more. But if he wants to, then who am I to say against?

The problem is that if I was married and my future husband wanted a second wife, I would probably loose all love and trust in him and get a divorce because I can't stand him. It's not because of the second wife itself, it's about loosing everything for him because I can't stand the feeling of sharing husband. Just like he wouldn't stand the feeling if I had two husbands. It's not legal to have two husbands, and it would be stupid, but the feeling are the same. And I believe that the jealousy and everything that makes us say no to polygamy is something we need to fight. But since polygamy is "just" sunnah, and not necessary at all, and only the men who can do it totally justice between the wife can marry more than one woman. But for what reason, I wonder? To be able to do fun things with more than one wife more often than one wife would feel for? What reason is that?

So I believe that men who actually consider more than one wife, should also consider their real intentions for it and how strong his feelings for the first wife is if he cares about her opinion or not. Because every deed and intention will be in our books at the Day of Judgment.
 
people live together and have kids before they make this decision..so with the kids they are joint for life. then they take the plunge and get married after living together and finding compatibility, yet the divorce rates are still high?
doesnt make sense

in any case, polygamy is totally permissable, some men can others cant, some men do it right others do it wrong, some men want to but cant so opt for multiple mistresses.
 
Lynx said:
if everyone in the situation agrees then whatever floats their boat.

if not then whoever is opting for another wife/husband is being unfair.
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Yeah, and al-hamdulillah there's divorce available.
 
amani said:
people live together and have kids before they make this decision..so with the kids they are joint for life. then they take the plunge and get married after living together and finding compatibility, yet the divorce rates are still high?
doesnt make sense
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:) Divorce rates are even higher for couples who live together before marriage.
 
J Aaliyah said:
Assalamo alaykom,

I don't find polygamy bad, but I don't find it necessary either. A man should be satisfied with one wife, he doesn't really need one, two or three more. But if he wants to, then who am I to say against?

The problem is that if I was married and my future husband wanted a second wife, I would probably loose all love and trust in him and get a divorce because I can't stand him. It's not because of the second wife itself, it's about loosing everything for him because I can't stand the feeling of sharing husband. Just like he wouldn't stand the feeling if I had two husbands. It's not legal to have two husbands, and it would be stupid, but the feeling are the same. And I believe that the jealousy and everything that makes us say no to polygamy is something we need to fight. But since polygamy is "just" sunnah, and not necessary at all, and only the men who can do it totally justice between the wife can marry more than one woman. But for what reason, I wonder? To be able to do fun things with more than one wife more often than one wife would feel for? What reason is that?

So I believe that men who actually consider more than one wife, should also consider their real intentions for it and how strong his feelings for the first wife is if he cares about her opinion or not. Because every deed and intention will be in our books at the Day of Judgment.
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I am gonna be blunt here. So brace yourself.

The bolded part. How do you think so? Can you think better than Allah? Of course not. Does Allah knows men more or you as a woman know men more? Allah swt has allowed a man to marry multiple wives for whatever halal reasons he has provided he does justice of time, money etc with them. Love is not part of this justice. He might love one wife more than other, example of Ayesha (ra) is clear.

Equating sharing a husband with sharing a wife, what analogy is that? Allah has allowed the former, not the later. No logical reasoning can make the former wrong, at least for a Muslim.
 
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mad_scientist said:
I am gonna be blunt here. So brace yourself.

The bolded part. How do you think so? Can you think better than Allah? Of course not. Does Allah knows men more or you as a woman know men more? Allah swt has allowed a man to marry multiple wives for whatever halal reasons he has provided he does justice of time, money etc with them. Love is not part of this justice. He might love one wife more than other, example of Ayesha (ra) is clear.

Equating sharing a husband with sharing a wife, what analogy is that? Allah has allowed the former, not the later. No logical reasoning can make the former wrong, at least for a Muslim.
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ok bro im sure the sister did not mean she believes she knows better then Allah. she was just giving her opinion :)

i think that this thread is getting a little controversial now and think its attracting shayytan also.

its best that it should be closed. sorry mohammad.
 
There is this hadith that the female population would be higher in the end times ,

Anas ibn Malik said, "I shall tell you a hadith which I heard from the Messenger of Allah, and which no-one will tell you after me. I heard him say, 'Among the signs of the Hour will be the disappearance of knowledge and the appearance of ignorance. Adultery will be prevalent and the drinking of wine will be common. The number of men will decrease and the number of women will increase until there will be fifty women to be looked after by one man.' " This hadith was reported in the two Sahihs from the hadith of 'Abd Rabbihi

What would these kaafirs do with the surplus women then

I cant why Kaafirs are filled with double standards and hyprocisy and have no problem legalising unnatural acts such as homosexuality but do not legalize polygamy which is a natural act .
 

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