Periwinkle you've correctly depicted the mindset of the people where we live, its pathetic to say the least..A few days ago we met somebody, and the grandmother of these people asked me to take off my shoes so that she could measure my height. I was furious, BUT since I'm a girl, I'm expected to behave well and deal with the demands of an obnoxious potential family.
To top it with insolence, when I expressed my concern over such a blatant display of superficial standards, the guy actually said 'oh you should be glad I'm considering you, previously I wouldn't even consider anyone below 5' 9 (in height), in your case i'm making an exception.' Reality: his own mother is half my size, Astaghfirullah, I would've pointed it out, but I'm too polite to dignify such a ruffian with an even better response to his bakwas,
How do these mothers raise these kids, and how can they even call such loosers as their sons? with idiots like these who needs donkeys or even kuffar for that matter, the ummah is torn to the tilth from within, no wonder this country is gifted with chaos upon chaos and people still act deaf dumb, blind and utterly stupid.
There are many mothers in Indonesia who try to find a wife for their sons. But they will not measure that girl height because they know their sons have eyes and can estimate how tall that girl is. And those mothers will not hesitate to slap their sons' mouth if their sons say like that guy said to you.
Dignity is something that maintained well by people in my place. And dignity is not measured by wealth, or by descendant line, but by how able someone to maintain manner and etiquette. And have an arrogant son who cannot maintain manner and etiquette will tear down their dignity because people will see them as parents who do not have manner and etiquette too.
Ulama in my place always teach people that in front of Allah, there's no rich people there's no poor people, there's no kings there's no slaves. The only thing that differentiate between one person and another person is Ahlaq.
When I was young, sometime my mother told me that I am handsome. Sometime my sisters told me, there must be girls who liked me. But my mother and other people around me never taught me that I could get any woman that I like easily.
No!. Even my mother and my aunties taught me the opposite lessons. In example, if I neglected a duty, my mother or my aunty told me "If you don't have responsibility, no girl will marry you". They taught me to see the reality that getting married is not easy because girls could reject guys that they do not want to marry.
I knew, I could propose marriage to any woman that I want, but I also knew, there's no guarantee the woman who I wanted to marry will accept me. I knew, I was a good looking guy and came from middle class family. But I also knew, there were many other guys who were more handsome and richer than me.
I knew, above a sky, there's another sky. That's what older people around me taught me.
Frankly, if I am in that guy position I would not tell you "'oh you should be glad I'm considering you, previously I wouldn't even consider anyone below 5' 9, in your case i'm making an exception", because I know, you will reply with "do you think I want to have a husband like you?".
Alhamdulillah, I am not that guy. I am just a husband who live happily with a beautiful wife and two cute sons.
weird :s
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