1) The Western culture seems to be obsessed with a very narrow ideal of feminine beauty, and women are derogated if they do not match this ideal. Many women spend hours each day picking just the right outfit and styling their makeup and hair before they will even step out of the house. Any feminist will tell you this obsession with women's beauty and sexuality is bad for women and should be ended. Isn't modest dress a good way for a woman to get off this merry-go-round and to tell people that they will have to judge her by her intelligence, personality, and character, not her appearance?
I don't think that modest dress would ensure respect for women. I see it more as a bandaid to the issue, a way to avoid the core problem. There are no doubt many pious men who respect their wives and would never derive pleasure from another woman. However, I tend to believe that most men continue to seek some sort of relationship with other women whether it be via an affair, another marriage, or pornography.
I've yet to meet a woman who spends hours getting dressed. This isn't reality.
Many of the feminist leaders are lesbians, and are unable or unwilling to take recognize their feminine characteristics. Instead, they often tend to focus on equality between men and women, without recognizing the obvious differences between the sexes. Feminist opinion is not held in high regard by most women I've known.
2) When men dress to be respected, they wear a business suit that covers them to throat, wrist, and ankle, and they keep their hair simple and plain. When women dress to be respected, shouldn't they also cover to throat, wrist, and ankle, and make sure that their hair is not a decoration? Clearly, men are not expected to play the "beauty game". If women want equality with men, shouldn't they take the same attitude to dress that men do?
Again, I think we need to recognize the differences between men and women. Men are more visual creatures. They like to see skin. Women, like to see skin on occasion; however, they tend to be more attracted to a mans strength, charisma, confidence, and power. A man completely covered in a suit can be just as erotic for a woman as a bikini clad 25 year old is for a man. For example, if I see a covered man in a suit and he is confident, and charming, I would be attracted to him. He is exuding his sexuality in this manner. He is saying to women, "I have a good job, I can provide well for you and your offspring".
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