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Perhaps a local mosque or church could create a volunteer "security" team for you, a buddy system for a little while. That way, you have safety & a witness.
If you can afford a call display and voice mail, you may get evidence that way. You could talk to your pohne company. If he calls way too much, they may give you a phone record that might be enough for a restraining order. With that, a friend's testimony or phone call would be enough to see it broken.
Sorry this happened.
 
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assalaamu alaykum,

get a respected elder or imam to talk to him, and if he still wont stop and if the police wont help then get some heavy duty brothers to frighten him or even to break his legs if he still wont stop cos then he cant follow you around if he is frightening you that much can he?

important thing is you make tawbah for making your mistake and dont do it again as it would be the height of foolishness to fall for the same trap of shaitan twice.

assalaamu alaykum,
Abu Abdullah
 
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this may cost u a few bucks

but get a camera and set it up to recode whats happening outside ur house.

normally a small camera can cost between $10 to $30 depending on what type u want (the spy cams type are pretty cheap, I know cos I have one set up on my frontdoor to see who comes when the bell rings)

All ull have to do is attach it up to a VCR or other recording device and ur set to go..

If u can get enough footage of the guy hanging around ur house and especially doing something dodgy - then he is toast!
 
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well, did sister....I know the situation you are in...
cuz my own sister was in a stupid mess like that, it was stupid to meet up first, and then letting him know where your house was even stupider, but you don't know what you are doing when you are doing it....he also asked my sister to marry him and she refused, and then the stalking began. we changed our phone number, she started walking with her friends but even then she was scared.

So one day she did something I still don't approve, but it worked, and that was, she met up with him, and explained the situation why she can't be with him, and she was honest, sincere, and bold when she was talking to him. She took one of her friends with her, who was keeping an eye on her while they were talking in a distance.

I would suggest you try that too, sometimes leading on a man and then saying no without a reason, and leaving him hanging would drive him to do stuff like that. if that happened to you, you would be crushed, man are just the opposite, instead of getting crushed, they crash :) so try talking always helps.
Good luck may Allah guide you both.
 
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Call the cops on him, , give the cops his details they can tracks him down.. I dont really understand this, how did he find out where u live? and how do u know if it him who broke ur window did v you see him..

police they just said bring proof I don’t know what proof they went
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Proof, aint a window broken enough proof for them.. stupid coppers..

I just went to leave the country. Please help me am Depressed I can’t eat at all I just feel sick
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Nah dodnt leave the country that aint gonna help, why should u leave the country cuz of this guy.. no u carry on living ur life and go college.Thats what happensa wid internet relationships, doesnt turn out how u expect it too.
 
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:sl:

Man they're some freaks out there don't they understand no means no.
 
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I don't mean to e rude...but aint a muslim woman and man not suppose to ave that kind of a relationship...as in coz they aint married and stuff...
But u shud report him...2 be honest shud never met up with him in the first place!!!! regrets...we all get that!!!
 
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skhalid said:
I don't mean to e rude...but aint a muslim woman and man not suppose to ave that kind of a relationship...as in coz they aint married and stuff...
But u shud report him...2 be honest shud never met up with him in the first place!!!! regrets...we all get that!!!
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Well, there is little benefit in crying over spilt milk. InshaAllah the sister will find a solution to her problem. Sis, please contact the police and file an official report with them. You made a mistake, but you don't deserve this.
 
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i know what i did was bad .but this is just bad i just blame myself for what has happend to me i have not been a muslim for i long time only a year although am going everywere with my big brother he is still there. am going to the police today they said they have somethigh for me :cry:
 
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:salamext:


May Allaah make it easy for you.. remember that if you have taqwa of Allaah [be aware of Allaah and fear to disobey Him] then Allaah will provide you from ways you could never expect. So keep making dua' (prayer) and Allaah will remove your distress and hardship inshaa'Allaah soon.

We will also keep you in our duas!
 
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^ v good advise

n say Alhamdulilah you didn't get accept him!!! Shows his true colors :offended:


all the best
:w:
 
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Ok some tipps for the next time, i hope something like that will never happent o you again:

1. NEVER meet up with Internet-Friends in real-life, doesnt matter how long you know him from chatting.

2. They can be child-.... , killers, silly people who will destroy your live.

3. PROTECT YOUR IDENTITY!

You have a gun? Protect yourself with a gun.. but dont kill him with it only shoot at his leg or at his arm so you wont kill him. (of course when he attacks so) Allah is with you dont worry...
 
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^^ You sound like you work for samaritans LOL

But don't promote guns you fool, she has Allah (swt) as her protector, make du'a before leaving the house, Ayatul Qursi or something alike,

tc sis

AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh!
 
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tasmiyah_B said:
^^ You sound like you work for samaritans LOL

But don't promote guns you fool, she has Allah (swt) as her protector, make du'a before leaving the house, Ayatul Qursi or something alike,

tc sis

AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh!
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I dont promote for guns. I just told her that it is her last chance to escape from that fool.
 
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axess1907 said:
Ok some tipps for the next time, i hope something like that will never happent o you again:

1. NEVER meet up with Internet-Friends in real-life, doesnt matter how long you know him from chatting.

2. They can be child-.... , killers, silly people who will destroy your live.

3. PROTECT YOUR IDENTITY!

You have a gun? Protect yourself with a gun.. but dont kill him with it only shoot at his leg or at his arm so you wont kill him. (of course when he attacks so) Allah is with you dont worry...
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salam.
lol

&& why wud she wana have a gun when she has Allah suabhwnatallah, if she shoots him or whetva still she might hit him someone were else which can course deth anywho i dunno go && ask ya mam for thy person whom wants a know ask help from your parents i guess or just go call thy cops for that dude simiple anywho i dunno am off.

Ms'alm
 
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If you have his mobile, send him a text telling him to leave you alone. He will most likely text you back saying something sinister. Bingo! There's your proof for the police to show that he REALLY is harassing you.

umm and about smashing knee-caps... does that mean the person cannot walk again? @chacha-Jalebi :?
 
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thank you all i wish he can just leave me alone. he's a really smart guy and he will not listen to me or anything i got to say he say's i turn he's life upside down and i have to pay for it. know i got a cop in my house and with me 24 hours from today coz they need to catch him out doing something
 
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Subhan Allah!!!

That's so horrible sister, you're in my duas!!!

Insha'Allah you'll catch this guy...

Please be careful.
 

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