Cut..CUT..=Yes/No?!

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Salamualikum,
I agree with bro chacha_jalebi to an extent like it reallyy gets to me that ppl cut themselves and all honestly I had 6 or 7 friends who did it and they wouldn't tell me or they stopped and many i talked to and i would tell them to stop tell them that its wrong and that there is no point to it...looking bak they'll think they were so stupid..yes there are people who want attention and that is why they do this but there are people who have no confidence whatsoever or faith in Allah(S.W.T) and they start doing this..I don't see a point to it..this topic would get me veryyy angry at times and i would say it to all of them that what's the point..i don't get it if you want to kill yourself just tell me..lol ok that reallyy scared them..i would talk to them all the time and made them promise me not to do it again and out of all of them one still did it and SHOWED IT TO ME...i got soo angry i hit her there and she got the point..i didn't hurt her hurt her but enough for her to get it..that was just askin for attention..somedays ago i gave a lecture to this other girl telling her why its rong and all because she was getting realllyy addicted to it..and it's truu when you get addicted to it ...it is veryyyy hard to stop...and you need a friend to help you through and most of all faith in Allah(s.w.t) ...I think these sisters and brothers need to be kept busy because when they are busy they don't really think of it as much while brothers and sisters who aren't that busy they think too much about it and causing self-harm.. i mean think about brothers and sisters in Iraq...everyday they are wishing for one more day and over here we are trying hurt ourselves...I would bring this example to my friends..and most people like bro chacha_jalebi said..hurt themselves over useless material dunya things that are not worth going to hell for...like when in love with boyfriends/gf and they hurt you..yes different people have different ways to deal with things and some don't have any at all and these people need help from friends who help them stop or psychologists ... sometimes you have to talk to them by taking things in perspective like giving them examples and understanding their problem but yet sayin that they can deal wit it..that they can handle it..Allah doesn't put something your way if you can't handle it...I mean i would lecture my friends telling them that' its wrong that they had no excuse for it ...that they should think about people who don't even have time to think about this stuff yet they go through far more than people in the states or canada or anywhere else or dubai whatever...but many depressed people care about themselves and could care less about the world and even then you gotta tell them they can handle it..
 
salams..

people harm themselves not for a solution or a way to get somewhere with an issue...

they do it out of confusion...they have mixed emotions...and dont know how to channel or vent it...

the main emotion is usually hopelessness...

another thing is that they feel as tho their issues are 'greater' or 'diffrent' to others' issues....in order to portray this to themselves...or perhaps to other ppl, they harm themselves...

the moment one realises that they have come to the point of harming themselves...it escalates the issue to a higher level...to a new realm...and ppl who find out actually take the issue seriously...coz unfortunately...in todays day n age...ppl are selfish..and ppl who harm themselves feel as tho noone will understand them...or noone will care...bt the moment u hurt urself...bang...u get the attention u feel ur issue deserves.

keep in mind that this isnt intentional or strategic...they dnt sit there and calculate these things...they are merely messages from the brain to the body..subconsiously...

peace.
 
I think if people didnt vent up stress and anxiety then they would never reach that stage to begin with, they need an outlet, i guess that can be islaam

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some people cant help but keep in that stress and anxiety. they pretty much have no choice but to. sometimes poeple need to vent on other people that hurt them to satisfy them.
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Sis sumeyye your right usually i hear the words you don't understand me ..no one understands me..even tho i perfectly can and i'm trying to help but in the end that's all they say and its true that people are veryy selfish in this day and age...I agree with you and i just wish that these sisters and bros and other people stop this habit
 
Sis sumeyye your right usually i hear the words you don't understand me ..no one understands me..even tho i perfectly can and i'm trying to help but in the end that's all they say and its true that people are veryy selfish in this day and age...I agree with you and i just wish that these sisters and bros and other people stop this habit

jazakallah khayr sis...im glad u agree with me:)
 
women are more prone because they have much more stress levels then men do. On average women have more responsabilities period. I can see where they come to the point of self harm, but now we are aware of this matter it's up to us to help anyway that we can. I'm here if anyone needs to talk...

still that does not justify self harm
 
personally i cant reason with it!

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Guys can never reason with anything. You won't be able to reason with it, because you are not the one doing it. You won't understand what the other person is going through.
 
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Guys can never reason with anything. You won't be able to reason with it, because you are not the one doing it. You won't understand what the other person is going through.

lol......but i harming your self doesnt help you in ANY WAY if it did I would reason with it if it does not help anyone in any way I wont reason or cant reason with it!
 
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^ You see, this type of attitude is what I hate. How do u know they are beyond help? If people actually bothered to help them or talk to them, they would realise that all self harming people need is a person that understands them and a bit of support!
 
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AhLÄÄM;906717 said:
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^ You see, this type of attitude is what I hate. How do u know they are beyond help? If people actually bothered to help them or talk to them, they would realise that all self harming people need is a person that understand them and a bit of support!


Well let me tell you why I think there beyond help in my opinion
My girlfriend I had, i didn't like her and I said I have 2 stop seeing u she didn't take it well. I didnt think much of it but then 1 week later she cut my name in her body. Now see thats so stupid and I spoke 2 her and shes just giving so many stupid reasons to me.

Thats why in my opinion I believe they have no hope. and in UR opinion they have hope

I think its in human nature to avoid hurting your self. look what people do and Im not saying just girls i am saying about 2 all males and females who harm them selves

also

like im so stressed out with my work atm its 2 much doesnt mean ill start cutting my leg off does it? (ok thats abit extreme)
 
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^ Different people cope with stress different ways.

Yeah but its not gaining anything are you?

Im not saying ur harming ur self or anything

but for example

You got so much stress unbelievable amount then you start cutting ur hand and stuff what do THEY gain ?

It doesn't make sense
 
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No, they don’t gain anything. But they get distracted from the real problem they are facing momentarily.

As I said, if you haven’t spoken to self harming people or do it yourself, you won’t understand.
 
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No, they don’t gain anything. But they get distracted from the real problem they are facing momentarily.

As I said, if you haven’t spoken to self harming people or do it yourself, you won’t understand.

Yes I have spoken to 4 people who self harm them selves and I know them very well seriously I have tried to come terms with this and it just makes me abit hacked off

If they want to get distracted to the real problem go out ? nothing 2 hard :confused:
 
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^ Look, I don't want to go round in circles. If you don't understand you don't understand. Khalaas.
 

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