syed_z,
Those two questions appear to be rhetorical - none of us, obviously, ever had any choice in existing and being human. However, please explain how it's relevant to the topic of justifying eternal punishment, as I'd rather not derail from the subject of the thread.
1st of All May Allah's Mercy be upon all Brothers/sisters who have taken the time to explain DuncG
Since you don't have a choice then , who gives you the permission to argue.... you have asked about infinite punishment, but you don't ask about the Mercy of Allah..... you don't ask about How much Mercy does Allah wants to bestow upon His Creation.... It is said in the Words of Prophet Muhammad (saw)...
Abu Huraira (r.a) said that Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: If a believer were to know the punishment (in Hell) none would have the audacity to aspire for Paradise (but he would earnestly desire to be rescued from Hell), and if a non-believer were to know what is there with Allah as a mercy. none would have been disappointed in regard to Paradise. (Sahih Muslim)
What people like you should ask NOT only of Punishment, but also Mercy of Allah, for His Mercy Outweighs His Wrath, and it is because of His Mercy that the Whole Universe came in to being... sad that you are so concerned about the Punishment of the One , while you don't want to know anything or even a little about the Most Merciful's Mercy, which is why He created the entire Creation in the Universe.....
So , the Question i asked was to get an answer, and so i did, i see that you were NOT asked either before entering this World like all of us, so i don't know what Choice do you really have ? Allah (swt) says clearly that there are 2 ways He has given and it is up to us to go the right way by following His guidance or go the Wrong way by rejecting...
(Chapter of Man Verse #3) Verily We have shown him the way: (and it rests with him to prove himself) either be grateful or ungrateful.
So its up to you accept His offer or Reject, as he has given you the free will so you do not say after you die, i was not aware of it ....
Difference between a Muslim who Submits his Will to God and a Non Muslim (Atheist or other) who does not Submit his Will to God...
This should explain something which makes us difference and makes us accept what makes for you very difficult to, as this is the only option left for me to tell you because i see that this is the only reason why we differ as to whether God's Eternal Punishment or Eternal Blessings are good or no....
Most of the Western People, based on their upbringing in a Secular environment, are used to think about everything around them, the world and the Hereafter based on their Pure Reasoning which is connected to our desires and emotions of the self and our ego. They use Pure reasoning to see whether such and such is right or wrong. Whatever their Pure Reason tells them, they accept and whatever they cannot establish or come to the conclusion, they reject. An Example is, Same Sex Marriage, if we see that a relationship between a Man and a Woman is right, but a man and a man is not right, or a woman and a woman, is unnatural, but if we question the relation based on Pure Reasoning, then we can say, "What is wrong if a man desires a man, and a woman desires a woman, because man and woman can desire each other, and so can a man and a man desire each other. The desire is inside of us, and whatever we desire, we should be allowed to do it ?"
Based on pure reasoning we can come to the conclusion, that Man and a Man if they like each other, is also nothing wrong, its natural, inside of us. But since we decide everything based on our Pure Reason, which in turn is connected to our desires and emotions, we ignore the facts that there is also an Unseen World, which has negative beings (devils), who can affect our minds and bodies, and make us have the wrong desire. But wait, the pure reasoning, was NOT able to come to that conclusion what is a wrong desire and what is a right desire, because Pure reasoning is connected to our desires and our own feelings, which uses External Observation to view the world and determine a Way of Life! And therefore even though the West has followers of Christian faith, yet there are Legalized Same Sex Marriages, and now even Gay Churches!
My point of explaining the above is, that your questioning is based on your Pure Reason. BUT in the case of a Muslim, our Reasoning is guided by a Higher Source of revelation and A Higher source of Guidance. For a Muslim Revelation told us , Gambling is Illegal, for a Muslim revelation told us Hijab is necessary, for a Muslim Revelation told us, do NOT torture even your enemies and don't be the ones to initiate a War or Battle, for a Muslim Revelation INFORMS our Reason what is Right and What is Wrong!
It is not for us that we questioned, argued and if felt like it, accepted it, NO! We Questioned, listened carefully, and accepted it, because it is the Truth! The Unseen world and whatever is in it Paradise, Hell, Jinns, Angels, CANNOT be explained by External observation only, and thebest way for us is to Submit to the Al Mighty ....
Now for a Muslim His reasoning is informed by Revelation and for a Disbeliever, his way of life is informed by his Pure Reason, while he completely forgets that....
HAS THERE (not) been an endless span of time before man when he was not yet a thing to be thought of ? (Chapter of Man Verse #1)
I would suggest that, we have explained DuncG enough, it is upto him to read the Quran and understand, if he does not, up to him , we should pray May Allah Guide him and leave it to Allah, and i think that there is no more point in arguing with the fellow... thank you .. Salaam...