Having more than one wife in Islam..

[Muezzin]

Does anyone else think this thread has run its course?

If not, please can we discuss the topic, not the person who posted it or the people commenting on it?

 

[nadinesauriol]

Salam Walikum

Not Good for second wife.

 

[Serinity]

Walaikum Salaam:

Yep, but Iv not seen people doing it for the right reasons I guess you think it's fine..
Allah has allowed it so I'm sure there are best reasons behind it but what people nowadays do is not right..there are reason which I agree with Alhamdulillah even if I didn't know of any I'd be fine coz Allah is never unjust. Islam was and still is prefect religion for me SubhanAllah just because I'm not happy with what people are doing or potraying it il not let it affect my imaan in sha Allah.

Only thing I'm saying is when your happily married u got perfect wife then there is no need for such step you should "think" about her health I'm sure that's not too much to ask for.

Like one brother said some sisters happily accept it and SubhanAllah that's really good, they accept it and their husbands go ahead with it same like that why can't men take a step back when the wife is not happy..we all know many women suffer from depression but the husband being the reason for depression is not right is it? That too when the relationship lacks nothing

some men marry again, cuz the first wife isn't enough to satisfy his desire. So yes, the relationship lacks if the intimacy is not enough.

The reason to marry is to do a sunnah, but also to satisfy one's desire in a halal way. What is wrong with that?

If one becomes miserable because he has to suppress his desires.....

Sorry, but I won't follow your advice. If someone wants polygamy let him have it.

 

[Muezzin]

i read everything posted here..and I keep repeating I know it's allowed in Islam but I was talking about men who don't consider about their wives feelings and no one here said yeah a man should consider about his wives feelings it's like she's not worth it

Said this earlier: If a man intends to marry a second wife, it would be wise for him to consider the impact this would would have on his first wife. In the case of this particular thread, it would be wise for the man to discuss privately with his first wife why he is considering polygamy, as this would promote greater understanding and peace of mind between them, whatever decision is made.

 

[abumuslim82]

i read everything posted here..and I keep repeating I know it's allowed in Islam but I was talking about men who don't consider about their wives feelings and no one here said yeah a man should consider about his wives feelings it's like she's not worth it all I know is women trust men, hardly anyone has this as a marriage contract condition that he won't marry again while they are together because women don't even think hel do that, wallahi I'd be jealous if my husband has another wife so this definitely will be in my marriage contract anyway will end the topic here now.

no hard feelings..

Asalaamu Alaikum.

mmmm u see if u putting it in ur marriage contract, how can you do it as a Muslim ? Say ur husband wants a second wife, he will be restricted by a kuffaar contract to do a halal thing. How can u use a kafir contract to prevent a Muslim, while u are a Muslim? This is a grave sin

trust me, I am a man, think like a man, have male friends, I've seen things ( a long while back, the fitnah is gone worse ), things as Muslim people in swingers parties, make and female married and attending as singles ( without partners knowing )


Im telling you, we Gona stop people from halal, they Gona fulfil with haraam

 

[Regrets1]

some men marry again, cuz the first wife isn't enough to satisfy his desire. So yes, the relationship lacks if the intimacy is not enough.

The reason to marry is to do a sunnah, but also to satisfy one's desire in a halal way. What is wrong with that?

If one becomes miserable because he has to suppress his desires.....

Sorry, but I won't follow your advice. If someone wants polygamy let him have it.

cool.. And I never said follow my advice everyones free to do what they wish...a woman should ask for divorce and marry another if she's not happy with her husband. She should ask for divorce if she's not satisfied with her husband. She should ask for divorce if she falls in love outside marriage and wants to marry him she should get divorce if the 2nd wife is too much for her to handle.

 

[Regrets1]

mmmm u see if u putting it in ur marriage contract, how can you do it as a Muslim ? Say ur husband wants a second wife, he will be restricted by a kuffaar contract to do a halal thing. How can u use a kafir contract to prevent a Muslim, while u are a Muslim? This is a grave sin

trust me, I am a man, think like a man, have male friends, I've seen things ( a long while back, the fitnah is gone worse ), things as Muslim people in swingers parties, make and female married and attending as singles ( without partners knowing )


Im telling you, we Gona stop people from halal, they Gona fulfil with haraam

As far as I know it's halal but il do my research, may Allah forgive if I am wrong. And if it's not halal I'd rather stay single than to be with someone who wants another wife so he can enjoy can love life while I'm miserabl. And let's say I get married and he wants to marry again just for desires then by all means he can go ahead but must divorce me. Not only men but women too should lower their gaze..most go out see people and they feel they should get intimate with them or they watch stuff online which they shouldn't which makes them want to have another woman..if your partners sex drive is really low etc then one can take that step but when everything's is normal then I don't find it right but yeah we all got own opinions..

 

[Regrets1]

Said this earlier: If a man intends to marry a second wife, it would be wise for him to consider the impact this would would have on his first wife. In the case of this particular thread, it would be wise for the man to discuss privately with his first wife why he is considering polygamy, as this would promote greater understanding and peace of mind between them, whatever decision is made.

Thank you brother. Doesn't take much other than to show consideration just so she knows someone does love and care for her, appreciate what you said unfortunately not many men think like that.

 

[Serinity]

cool.. And I never said follow my advice everyones free to do what they wish...a woman should ask for divorce and marry another if she's not happy with her husband. She should ask for divorce if she's not satisfied with her husband. She should ask for divorce if she falls in love outside marriage and wants to marry him and she should get divorced if the 2nd wife is too much for her to handle.

Explain this. Cuz tbh, I disagree, and I think that it is unjust. So you're just going to divorce your husband if you see another Muslim guy you suddenly love more? will you continue like this?

 

[Regrets1]

Explain this. Cuz tbh, I disagree, and I think that it is unjust. So you're just going to divorce your husband if you see another Muslim guy you suddenly love more? will you continue like this?

Talk about double standards! Disagree all you like. It's ok for a man to marry someone he likes and wants to complete his needs and desires with her but if a woman likes someone and wants to make it halal with him people disagree wow her "desires and satisfaction" doesn't matter?? Yes people should love the one they are married to but as we are talking about men can marry whoever they want for their desires then I'm sure a woman can marry another so he completes her needs

 

[Serinity]

Talk about double standards! Disagree all you like. It's ok for a man to marry someone he likes and wants complete his needs and desires with her but if a woman likes someone and wants to make it halal with him people disagree wow her "desires and satisfaction" doesn't matter??

u don't understand.

If everyone was to follow their desires solely, there'd be divorces through the roof.
Tbh, I'd never marry a woman who'd jump from man to man.
Polygamy is permissible for men only. Silk is permissible for women only.
May Allah SWT forgive me if I said wrong. Ameen.

 

[Regrets1]

u don't understand.

If everyone was to follow their desires solely, there'd be divorces through the roof.

a woman can marry whomever she wants, but to just go from man to man like that? I disagree. It is frankly unintelligent and unwise to just divorce, marry, divorce, marry.

May Allah SWT forgive me if I said wrong. Ameen.

Yeah your right men should follow their desires and woman should stick to one man even if they aren't happy. Never said they should keep marrying and divorcing or keep changing men..

 

[Serinity]

Yeah your right men should follow their desires and woman should stick to one man even if they aren't happy. Never said they should keep marrying and divorcing or keep changing men..

It seems like you don't get it.

Polygamy is permissible for men, but impermissible for women. That is how Allah SWT put it. So I don't care about your opinions when it contradicts what Allah SWT says

Anyways,

Ruling on plural marriage and conditions thereof:

https://islamqa.info/en/49044

 

[Regrets1]

u don't understand.

If everyone was to follow their desires solely, there'd be divorces through the roof.
Tbh, I'd never marry a woman who'd jump from man to man.
Polygamy is permissible for men only. Silk is permissible for women only.
May Allah SWT forgive me if I said wrong. Ameen.

Yeah same like that I wouldn't marry a man for whom one woman is not enough. No woman should and I don't think they do jump from a man to man your blowing things out of proportion here..I said it in general if a man can marry another woman coz of his desires he wants them completed with another woman then a woman can too ask for divorce and marry someone who'll satisfy her needs and that too by marrying and having a halal relationship I'm sure there is nothing wrong in that.

 

[Regrets1]

It seems like you don't get it.

Polygamy is permissible for men, but impermissible for women. That is how Allah SWT put it. So I don't care about your opinions when it contradicts what Allah SWT says

Anyways,

Ruling on plural marriage and conditions thereof:

https://islamqa.info/en/49044

when did I say she should have 2 or more husbands?? It's not allowed but if he's not satisfying her then she CAN marry another person and that too after getting divorce from first. And as I said b4 doesn't bother me whether u agree or not whether my opinions matter to u or not. Peace.

 

[Serinity]

Yeah same like that I wouldn't marry a man for whom one woman is not enough. No woman should and I don't think they do jump from a man to man your blowing things out of proportion here..I said it in general if a man can marry another woman coz of his desires he wants them completed with another woman then a woman can too ask for divorce and marry someone who'll satisfy her needs and that too by marrying and having a halal relationship I'm sure there is nothing wrong in that.

Beware of what you say.

Don't discourage polygamy just because you dislike it.

 

[Regrets1]

Beware of what you say.

Don't discourage polygamy just because you dislike it.

How am I discouraging it?? And I didn't even say I don't like it people can do all they want but I wouldn't want a man who does that. Just because I said a woman has rights too you couldn't take it.

 

[Serinity]

How am I discouraging it?? And I didn't even say I don't like it people can do all they want but I wouldn't want a man who does that. Just because I said woman has rights too you couldn't take it.

I know women have rights.

 

[Regrets1]

[MENTION=488]Serenity[/MENTION]

Dont want no argument with you..you keep saying "you don't understand" well I guess even you don't understated what I am saying, we won't agree and that ain't no problem.

Asalamu Alaikum:

 

[Serinity]

Wa alaikum salam,

Lets forgive eachother. OK? I forgive, even if you hate me. I think we misunderstood eachother. if one can't handle polygamy, one can divorce, afaik. Sorry.

May Allah SWT forgive us. Ameen.

And Allah SWT knows best.