Having more than one wife in Islam..

[EgyptPrincess]

i read everything posted here..and I keep repeating I know it's allowed in Islam but I was talking about men who don't consider about their wives feelings and no one here said yeah a man should consider about his wives feelings it's like she's not worth it

You must be a troll... I told you umpteen times that is depends on the man. Some men will obey their woman with every command they issue because their love for them is so great they don't even want a feather to hurt them. Other men might consider her feelings and decide to marry another wife anyway. Then some men may not even discuss it with their wife and demand that they accept another wife.

Men are different, people are different. Tell you "friend" to discuss it with her husband and if she doesn't like it then she'll have to either deal with it or divorce him. Allah swt knows best our intentions and he will be the judge of this action.

Now please.. stop asking. Thank you.

 

[Regrets1]

Wa alaikum salam,

Lets forgive eachother. OK? I forgive, even if you hate me.

May Allah SWT forgive us. Ameen.

And Allah SWT knows best.

Don't hate you and I forgive you too

Ameen.

 

[Regrets1]

You must be a troll... I told you umpteen times that is depends on the man. Some men will obey their woman with every command they issue because their love for them is so great they don't even want a feather to hurt them. Other men might consider her feelings and decide to marry another wife anyway. Then some men may not even discuss it with their wife and demand that they accept another wife.

Men are different, people are different. Tell you "friend" to discuss it with her husband and if she doesn't like it then she'll have to either deal with it or divorce him. Allah swt knows best our intentions and he will be the judge of this action.

Now please.. stop asking. Thank you.

Troll?? You keep saying that but Allah knows best I'm sure you wouldn't like anyone talking to you in such manner..that comment was not for you. People can go having different threads asking things right? But can't take when someone else is asking a question and you don't even have to answer simple as.

Asalamu Alaikum.

 

[Serinity]

Afaik, one has the right to divorce if one can't handle it.

A reminder: There is no obedience to the creation in disobedience to the Creator.

I am not married, so Idk what'd I do. But I'd take my wife's standpoint into consideration.

I'm not trying to act mean, I just don't want to hear any bad or kufr. Or stuff contrary to Islam. :/

 

[Regrets1]

You must be a troll... I told you umpteen times that is depends on the man. Some men will obey their woman with every command they issue because their love for them is so great they don't even want a feather to hurt them. Other men might consider her feelings and decide to marry another wife anyway. Then some men may not even discuss it with their wife and demand that they accept another wife.

Men are different, people are different. Tell you "friend" to discuss it with her husband and if she doesn't like it then she'll have to either deal with it or divorce him. Allah swt knows best our intentions and he will be the judge of this action.

Now please.. stop asking. Thank you.

Nowhwre have I said they are all same don't know what you have been reading..have few examples of people who love Their wives dearly and also gave examples of who don't care about their spouses.

 

[Regrets1]

Afaik, one has the right to divorce if one can't handle it.

A reminder: There is no obedience to the creation in disobedience to the Creator.

I am not married, so Idk what'd I do. But I'd take my wife's standpoint into consideration.

I'm not trying to act mean, I just don't want to hear any bad or kufr. Or stuff contrary to Islam. :/

Finally I agree with you. Never have said all men are same or all don't care about their wives I was just talking about the ones who don't and they should.

 

[EgyptPrincess]

Nowhwre have I said they are all same don't know what you have been reading..have few examples of people who love Their wives dearly and also gave examples of who don't care about their spouses.

You've repeated the same question a dozen times.. The answer has been provided a dozen times. What more do you want or need to know?

 

[abumuslim82]

As far as I know it's halal but il do my research, may Allah forgive if I am wrong. And if it's not halal I'd rather stay single than to be with someone who wants another wife so he can enjoy can love life while I'm miserabl. And let's say I get married and he wants to marry again just for desires then by all means he can go ahead but must divorce me. Not only men but women too should lower their gaze..most go out see people and they feel they should get intimate with them or they watch stuff online which they shouldn't which makes them want to have another woman..if your partners sex drive is really low etc then one can take that step but when everything's is normal then I don't find it right but yeah we all got own opinions..

U don't have to do research, it's sunnah so it has to be halal, cum on man, stop playing games.


men will always love women ( besides the ones who are gone astray/ gay ), that why we get the hoor al ayn.

dont worry ur husband won't just marry just after he marries you, unless he is wise and has marital experience, then he mite do it lol.

dont fight it, ALLAH won't make something halal if it's Gona hurt a believer, think about it.

coz of our stupid actions we get hurt

 

[abumuslim82]

You've repeated the same question a dozen times.. The answer has been provided a dozen times. What more do you want or need to know?

InshaALLAH she is a Muslim, the repetition of the same thing over and over can be a possible spy.

 

[Regrets1]

You've repeated the same question a dozen times.. The answer has been provided a dozen times. What more do you want or need to know?

Females did say stuff how a man should consider about his wife but Other than one or two males here others didn't really talk about how a man should think about his wives feelings but now even brother serenity have said he would take his wives "standpoint into consideration" so that was the point for being repetitive coz not many men here were considering the wives feelings.

 

[Regrets1]

InshaALLAH she is a Muslim, the repetition of the same thing over and over can be a possible spy.

Think whatever you like..your saying as though only a spy, troll or kafir would be repetitive?? Muslims aren't perfect even we can ask questions and be repetitive until we are satisfied with the answers. Your words can easily hurt people.

 

[Regrets1]

U don't have to do research, it's sunnah so it has to be halal, cum on man, stop playing games.


men will always love women ( besides the ones who are gone astray/ gay ), that why we get the hoor al ayn.

dont worry ur husband won't just marry just after he marries you, unless he is wise and has marital experience, then he mite do it lol.

dont fight it, ALLAH won't make something halal if it's Gona hurt a believer, think about it.

coz of our stupid actions we get hurt

Why shouldn't I?? I will do my research to make things clear for myself.
i know it's sunnah men can have 4 wives I was talking about the marriage contract..

 

[Serinity]

Finally I agree with you. Never have said all men are same or all don't care about their wives I was just talking about the ones who don't and they should.

that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: "The best of you is the best to his wives, and I am the best of you to my wives, and when your companion dies, leave him alone."

http://sunnah.com/urn/637830

 

[Regrets1]

that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: "The best of you is the best to his wives, and I am the best of you to my wives, and when your companion dies, leave him alone."

http://sunnah.com/urn/637830

SubhanAllah.

 

[EgyptPrincess]

Females did say stuff how a man should consider about his wife but Other than one or two males here others didn't really talk about how a man should think about his wives feelings but now even brother serenity have said he would take his wives "standpoint into consideration" so that was the point for being repetitive coz not many men here were considering the wives feelings.

I apologise for being harsh with you. You have to remember though that this is an internet forum and it doesn't really matter how the members of this forum treat their spouses. They can all be amazing husbands or they could all be terrible husbands, it makes no difference to the question you posted

If your friend is not happy or her husband is not happy, there is no obligation to carry on with the marriage. Again I say that Allah knows best our intentions. There was a brother on another forum who rushed into marriage with an unattractive women and now he is unhappy, he can divorce her if he wants... simply because she is a dog. Again Allah will be the judge of this action.

When it's all said and done, a happy marriage is a healthy marriage and a happy marriage requires communication, compromise, love and care.

Sorry again for being harsh.

 

[Serinity]

Beauty fade, love fade.... There has to be mercy and there is!

Allah SWT said that He SWT will instill love AND mercy in marriage. Afaik. May Allah SWT forgive me if I said wrong. Ameen.

 

[Regrets1]

I apologise for being harsh with you. You have to remember though that this is an internet forum and it doesn't really matter how the members of this forum treat their spouses. They can all be amazing husbands or they could all be terrible husbands, it makes no difference to the question you posted

If your friend is not happy or her husband is not happy, there is no obligation to carry on with the marriage. Again I say that Allah knows best our intentions. There was a brother on another forum who rushed into marriage with an unattractive women and now he is unhappy, he can divorce her if he wants... simply because she is a dog. Again Allah will be the judge of this action.

When it's all said and done, a happy marriage is a healthy marriage and a happy marriage requires communication, compromise, love and care.

Sorry again for being harsh.

SubhanAllah. This is what I love about Muslims (non Muslims also) who without holding any grudges apologise and do consider about others..it's ok sister no problem at all and no hard feelings may Allah swt bless you sometimes we all keep being repetitive saying stuff in different words with same meaning just to get answers.

I wasn't judging anyone and I don't want to know about anyone's personal life..I generally said that men should care about women (I know some do) just talking about the ones who don't. May Allah swt guide us all. Ameen

 

[Serinity]

The wife should also be understanding and not jump hastily to conclusions.

As long as both parties understand eachother, there is no need for drama. May Allah SWT forgive me if I said wrong. Ameen. And Allah SWT knows best.

 

[abumuslim82]

Think whatever you like..your words can easily hurt people.

Yes I do have a very sharp tongue, I sum times hear a plane flying over my house, I read the kalima not knowing if its a drone, lol

i welcome shahadah though, love it.

now I'm trying to get to a level higher, as siddique. Shukr the kuffaar create these sites, makes it easier to achieve this rank,


lol beat them at their own game, the fools.

u get an answer and u ask the same thing, Over and over again.

read 2 Ralasts of salaah and ask ALLAH for guidance for u, me and the ummah

 

[Regrets1]

Yes I do have a very sharp tongue, I sum times hear a plane flying over my house, I read the kalima not knowing if its a drone, lol

i welcome shahadah though, love it.

now I'm trying to get to a level higher, as siddique. Shukr the kuffaar create these sites, makes it easier to achieve this rank,


lol beat them at their own game, the fools.

u get an answer and u ask the same thing, Over and over again.

read 2 Ralasts of salaah and ask ALLAH for guidance for u, me and the ummah

May Allah guide you. He alone knows your intentions..

"Hudhaifa RA narrates: My tongue was sharp on my family; i used to rebuke them. I said to Rasulullah saw: i fear that my tongue will take me to hell. Rasulullah saw said: Then where has repentance gone? (why do you not tender repentance, so that your tongue may be reformed?). I repent to my Rabb (Sustainer) a hundred times a day (Musnad Ahmad)

"Umme Habiba RA, wife of Nabi saw narrates that Nabi saw said: The speech of the Son of Adam is a burden upon him (a reason to be held accountable for) except Enjoining Good,Prohibiting Evil, or remembering Allah"


Thank you for praying for us may Allah accept your dua and may he guide us all. Ameen.