Having more than one wife in Islam..

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Another lesson: Allah's laws and rulings is based on justice. Non can find fault.

Each ruling is there for a purpose and it is a common knowledge that men and women are created differently, so the needs are different.

But as for piety, one can be higher in status than the other, and Allah alone is the sole Judge. Subhanallah!
 
I haven't been through this entire thread but as I said on the first page we should just make a sticky a very detailed post on the authentic rules, terms and conditions of polygamy which inshaAllah everyone can refer to clarify any questions or misunderstandings.

I think this would really help. I have seen so many polygamy threads asking similar questions.
 
Islam permits men to have up to four wives concurrently. They must all be treated equally and justly.

To have more than one wife is a very individual decision based on various factors. In the case of this thread, it would be wise for the man to see what impact the decision to have another wife will have on his existing one, and for them both to privately discuss any issues which may have led to this decision. Inshallah this will lead to greater understanding and peace of mind among them, whatever decision is reached.
 
Few of my youth friends came from polygamous families. I knew personally with their fathers, and I had no problem with them. Now few of my other friends commit polygamy, and I have no problem with them. We respect each other.

But unfortunately nowadays there are few people who provoke monogamous men like me. They call us westernized, anti-sunnah, anti-Islam. This is what I don't like. This is what I don't understand. Why they accuse us like this?. Why they make takfir on us?. Why can't they respect Muslims who choose monogamy?.
 
Umm Abed said:
Wassalam.

I just hope that if they are new to Islam then they should make an effort in learning its teachings, so, if something is said out of context which is against Islam then it must be corrected, insha'allah we all make effort.
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My main objective here is to make Muslims aware that they should NOT learn on the net, go to authentic sources rather and favourite other objective is to anger the kaafir pigs
 
abumuslim82 said:
My main objective here is to make Muslims aware that they should NOT learn on the net, go to authentic sources rather and favourite other objective is to anger the kaafir pigs
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I understand that not everyone have access to scholars personally, so it makes a difference to learn from reliable sources.

Internet can be a blessing when used in the right way so therefore, if we have access to good links that will help a great deal, insha'allah.
 
Umm Abed said:
I understand that not everyone have access to scholars personally, so it makes a difference to learn from reliable sources.

Internet can be a blessing when used in the right way so therefore, if we have access to good links that will help a great deal, insha'allah.
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There's too many yahoodi sites oosing as Islamic site ( like this site, trust me, lol )

In todays times even the mufti and so called big shuyookh that's giving us bayaan from the mimbar could be munafiq.

I'd say the best scholars to learn from would be the Yemeni ulema ( Rasulullah SAW praised the Yemeni people in authentic ahaadith ) and those that are fisabilillah. Other methods are the 6 authentic hadith books, rather read these than reading books from scholars who could be munafiq.
 
Misbah0411 said:
You know the Prophet s.a.a.w had trouble with his multiple wives because naturally the woman feels jealous and for other reasons. Are you going to say he failed at that also? Be careful with your flawed logic. Bottom line, it is permissible for a man to have up to four wives if he can do justly with all of them. This is the law of Allah. When Allah and His Messenger have decreed a matter, all we are required to do is say, "we hear and obey".
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When the Prophet realized that his wives had started competing for his affection and were immorally scheming against each other, he didn't lay back and enjoy the easy life, like a selfish man might have done. Instead, he denounced all his wives for their immorality, declared that none of them would have him until they'd all change their ways. He went to proverbially sleep on the couch of his own accord. After a month, his wives were repentant, playing nice, and begging him to come back. The Prophet restored domestic harmony by not tolerating immoral behaviour and by making his wives confident that they could act in good faith towards each other.
 
:salam:

Those who want a polygamous marriage should not be shamed or whatever. Those who want monogamous marriage, shouldn't be shamed or whatever, either.
 
One of the problems is that we as Muslims have let the kuffar define what is right and wrong, what is moral or immoral, what is acceptable or unacceptable due to us living in their societies for generations and not living under the Law of Allah. We have become like them in our mentality and our behaviors. Which is why I see in some of these posts, Muslims reacting the way they do to polygamy or dating or showing loyalty and affiliation to the disbelievers even when it contradicts the Law of Allah and His Messenger s.a.a.w. The Prophet s.a.a.w said: "Whoever keeps intimate relations with a disbeliever and resides with him, then he is just like him." (Abu Dawood) Ibn Taymiyyah said:

"The state of a place reflects the state of a person. It is possible to be sometimes a Muslim and at other times a disbeliever; sometimes sincere and at other times hypocritical;sometimes good and pious and at other times rotten and corrupt. Thus, a person becomes like the place of his abode. The migration of a person from a land of disbelief and profanity to one of faith and probity is an expression of repentance and of his turning away from disobedience and perversion to belief and obedience. This is so until the Day of Resurrection."
 
abumuslim82 said:
Anti polygamists, come I tell ull sum thing straight forward, ull think like kuffaar.

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No one said its wrong! Allah swt knows best and whatever He has ordered is right no doubt. Being a Muslim is submission to the will of Allah but I'm sure we all got questions right? That doesn't mean we are against what Allah has said (Astagferullah) there are many things I don't know and all I can say is they Allahs rules and orders so no doubt they are right I don't overthink about them. But here we are talking about men who don't consider about the woman, when I was little and heard my parents arguments I always heard my dad saying "il get married again to a 16,17 year old young virgin girl" if they wanna follow the sunnah follow it right why say such things to your wife?? The one who has your children raises them cooks and cleans for u which isn't even her duty or responsibility that's how you repay her??
 
Futuwwa said:
When the Prophet realized that his wives had started competing for his affection and were immorally scheming against each other, he didn't lay back and enjoy the easy life, like a selfish man might have done. Instead, he denounced all his wives for their immorality, declared that none of them would have him until they'd all change their ways. He went to proverbially sleep on the couch of his own accord. After a month, his wives were repentant, playing nice, and begging him to come back. The Prophet restored domestic harmony by not tolerating immoral behaviour and by making his wives confident that they could act in good faith towards each other.
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Iv said b4 aswell no man can ever be like the prophet pbuh, any woman would want to be with nabi of Allah even if they felt jealous they were blessed to have him as a husband. This might sound stupid but the prophet didn't have 2nd wife when his first wife was alive so why don't men nowadays do same? Stupid but yeah..

Some people here have said its kuffar way of thinking don't know what gave them that idea. I don't think think iv said its wrong it is allowed and should be Allah knows best..but when your happy with your wife and kids there is no need to marry again, you can BUT if you care about your wife and kids how it would effect them tthen you wouldn't..if she's not doing what she should then you can go ahead but still warn her first.

*nowhere Iv said its wrong so don't want anyone attacking me*
 
Serinity said:
:salam:

Those who want a polygamous marriage should not be shamed or whatever. Those who want monogamous marriage, shouldn't be shamed or whatever, either.
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Walaikum Salaam:

Yep, but Iv not seen people doing it for the right reasons:) I guess you think it's fine..
Allah has allowed it so I'm sure there are best reasons behind it but what people nowadays do is not right..there are reason which I agree with Alhamdulillah even if I didn't know of any I'd be fine coz Allah is never unjust. Islam was and still is prefect religion for me SubhanAllah just because I'm not happy with what people are doing or potraying it il not let it affect my imaan in sha Allah.

Only thing I'm saying is when your happily married u got perfect wife then there is no need for such step you should "think" about her health I'm sure that's not too much to ask for.

Like one brother said some sisters happily accept it and SubhanAllah that's really good, they accept it and their husbands go ahead with it same like that why can't men take a step back when the wife is not happy..we all know many women suffer from depression but the husband being the reason for depression is not right is it? That too when the relationship lacks nothing
 
I just want to make things clear here I Am not against what Allah has said (Astagferullah) I am a Muslim I cannot even let such thoughts come in my mind. I haven't said its wrong I just wanted to know some things and they are still unanswered (rules and conditions) I wasn't even saying its wrong But men who do not think about first wife are wrong (some brother do I guess not judging anyone) if she is not completing his needs or is a bad person then go ahead with it..only point I was trying to make was if she's a good person she only lives for you then don't hurt her think about her feelings and emotions. How would you feel your wife falls in love with someone outside marriage? She leaves you and married him?? I know men can and do keep the first wife but how do u expect her to share you?? And I really don't want no answers from anyone now some people are just attacking me here things can be said nicely and in good manners without making fun out of someone. I dont just get the information from Internet and believe everything..I know where to learn from "Quran and Hadith" and that's what il do, feel like and idiot starting this thread..I hope people don't go to non Muslims with harsh comments and tone..yes tell them exactly what Allah and prophet pbuh have said Islam doesn't change for no one but there is a way to get your point across. Thank you for your time:) May Allah bless you all.
 
Regrets1 said:
No one said its wrong! Allah swt knows best and whatever He has ordered is right no doubt. Being a Muslim is submission to the will of Allah but I'm sure we all got questions right? That doesn't mean we are against what Allah has said (Astagferullah) there are many things I don't know and all I can say is they Allahs rules and orders so no doubt they are right I don't overthink about them. But here we are talking about men who don't consider about the woman, when I was little and heard my parents arguments I always heard my dad saying "il get married again to a 16,17 year old young virgin girl" if they wanna follow the sunnah follow it right why say such things to your wife?? The one who has your children raises them cooks and cleans for u which isn't even her duty or responsibility that's how you repay her??
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K, lets put things into perspective regarding paying a person back,

Can you repay ur parents ? If not, then why get married and move out of the house and spend less time with them and help them less ??
 
abumuslim82 said:
K, lets put things into perspective regarding paying a person back,

Can you repay ur parents ? If not, then why get married and move out of the house and spend less time with them and help them less ??
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No comments. Iv got a lot to say but I won't..have a good day:)
 
Regrets1 said:
SubhanAllah. Your a bit too quick to judge your fellow Muslims aren't you?
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No, u just wont listen. How many posts have people been explaining to you.

If u are a muslim then I apologise for calling u ignorant.

I'm gona start a thread just now regarding Umar r.a. InshaALLAH , please read and comment also. One of his sayings.
 
abumuslim82 said:
No, u just wont listen. How many posts have people been explaining to you.

If u are a muslim then I apologise for calling u ignorant.

I'm gona start a thread just now regarding Umar r.a. InshaALLAH , please read and comment also. One of his sayings.
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i read everything posted here..and I keep repeating I know it's allowed in Islam but I was talking about men who don't consider about their wives feelings and no one here said yeah a man should consider about his wives feelings it's like she's not worth it:) all I know is women trust men, hardly anyone has this as a marriage contract condition that he won't marry again while they are together because women don't even think hel do that, wallahi I'd be jealous if my husband has another wife so this definitely will be in my marriage contract anyway will end the topic here now.

no hard feelings..

Asalaamu Alaikum.
 
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