Having more than one wife in Islam..

[EgyptPrincess]

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If a woman had 4 husbands, the husbands would proly fight eachother, and out of their jealousy kill eachother or something. Allahu alam.

No man would share their wife.

There is a reason why Allah SWT didn't allow it. It isn't wise to let women have more than 1 husband. Allahu alam.

I completely agree with you, which is the point I was trying to make. The men would become jealous and violent and it would not end well.

You think women don't have the same jealousy? I wonder if you took a survey in the muslim community, what percentage of muslimahs would be "happy" to share their husband. Not many I suspect.

Asking your wife to accept another wife is the same as your wife asking you to accept another husband. It is an incredible tough decision for her to accept. We have feelings also...

 

[Futuwwa]

A man with more than one wife has a responsibility to ensure domestic harmony. If he can't get his current wife to accept him taking another, he has already failed at that.

 

[Regrets1]

A man with more than one wife has a responsibility to ensure domestic harmony. If he can't get his current wife to accept him taking another, he has already failed at that.

Thank youu..just the answer I was looking for. Sorry everyone if I was repetitive b4.

 

[Serinity]

I completely agree with you, which is the point I was trying to make. The men would become jealous and violent and it would not end well.

You think women don't have the same jealousy? I wonder if you took a survey in the muslim community, what percentage of muslimahs would be "happy" to share their husband. Not many I suspect.

Asking your wife to accept another wife is the same as your wife asking you to accept another husband. It is an incredible tough decision for her to accept. We have feelings also...

If someone doesn't understand the wisdom behind a ruling then one should just say "I hear and obey" ..

Allah SWT didn't make polygamy obligatory. And Allah SWT put challenges in deen for everyone.

Part of the challenge is to show your submission / faith in Allah SWT.

one's opinions may not be in line with The Quran.. Look it is a challenge, it requires great Imaan. It is natural. [FONT=wf_segoe-ui_light]
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A woman’s jealousy concerning her husband is something that is innate and natural, and you cannot tell a woman, “Do not feel jealous over your husband.” If a person dislikes something even though it is prescribed in sharee’ah, that does not adversely affect him, so long as he does not hate the fact that it is prescribed. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Jihaad (holy fighting in Allaah’s Cause) is ordained for you (Muslims) though you dislike it, and it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you…” [al-Baqarah 2:216]
A woman’s jealousy concerning her husband is something that is innate and natural, and you cannot tell a woman, “Do not feel jealous over your husband.” If a person dislikes something even though it is prescribed in sharee’ah, that does not adversely affect him, so long as he does not hate the fact that it is prescribed. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Jihaad (holy fighting in Allaah’s Cause) is ordained for you (Muslims) though you dislike it, and it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you…” [al-Baqarah 2:216]

It is a test from Allah SWT, just like Jihad for me would be a test. And remember, we are slaves of Allah SWT, All-wise, All-knowing.

So we have to conform to Allah SWT's laws, etc. and not to our desires. After all, what will following our desires bring us except destruction?

It is in Allah SWT's wisdom that He SWT allowed men to have 4 wives, and women not to have except 1 husband. If one runs back on his heels to disbelief, just because there is a thing that he dislikes, would indicate that he didn't truly believe in Allah SWT anyway.

We may like or dislike a thing, but we are slaves of Allah SWT. We know not, but Allah SWT knows. We aren't slaves of our desires and opinions but of Allah SWT.

And Allah SWT knows best.

 

[Misbah0411]

A man with more than one wife has a responsibility to ensure domestic harmony. If he can't get his current wife to accept him taking another, he has already failed at that.

You know the Prophet s.a.a.w had trouble with his multiple wives because naturally the woman feels jealous and for other reasons. Are you going to say he failed at that also? Be careful with your flawed logic. Bottom line, it is permissible for a man to have up to four wives if he can do justly with all of them. This is the law of Allah. When Allah and His Messenger have decreed a matter, all we are required to do is say, "we hear and obey".

 

[Regrets1]

You know the Prophet s.a.a.w had trouble with his multiple wives because naturally the woman feels jealous and for other reasons. Are you going to say he failed at that also? Be careful with your flawed logic. Bottom line, it is permissible for a man to have up to four wives if he can do justly with all of them. This is the law of Allah. When Allah and His Messenger have decreed a matter, all we are required to do is say, "we hear and obey".

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I dont think he meant it in that way. And brother the prophet pbuh had reasons to have more than one wife one is to show us people that it's ok for a man to marry a non virgin, widow and have interracial marriages etc prophet pbuh didn't even get married the 2nd time when his first wife was alive. No one here is saying it's wrong but the man should consider about his wife and her feelings shouldn't he?? I personally find it wrong if someone wants to marry another woman coz they can't lower their gaze that's his fault not his wives but then he should go to his wife and complete his needs.

 

[Serinity]

one can marry a virgin in a polygamy marriage, too. Tho one can marry widows, divorcees, etc. And Allah SWT knows best.

 

[Bhabha]

Watch your mouth. Polygamy is permissible in Islam.

And it is your own preconcieved thoughts that make you think like this. The Prophet Muhammad SAW practiced polygamy, so did the sahabahs, r.a. They were great men.

And Allah SWT knows best.

But I think the prophet also gave his wives the choice to either permit the polygamy or get a divorce. I forgot where, but I saw this somewhere. So yes a wife can ask for a divorce if she will not be able to accept it.

 

[abumuslim82]

Anti polygamists, come I tell ull sum thing straight forward, ull think like kuffaar.

Indoctrination

 

[Umm Abed]

I completely agree with you, which is the point I was trying to make. The men would become jealous and violent and it would not end well.

You think women don't have the same jealousy? I wonder if you took a survey in the muslim community, what percentage of muslimahs would be "happy" to share their husband. Not many I suspect.

Asking your wife to accept another wife is the same as your wife asking you to accept another husband. It is an incredible tough decision for her to accept. We have feelings also...

Your ideas and thinking is unislamic.

Allah's Laws is Supreme, its above the rest and whatever man made laws and personal opinions there are, it means nothing when it comes to what Allah swt has allowed and disallowed.

It is important that you and others like you acknowledge such attitude that you have, belongs to your opinion and it doesnt hold any weight. This, Im telling you nicely and no way mean to be harsh, but I felt the need to say what is right because no one can make haram what Allah has made halal and likewise you cant make halal which Allah has made haram.

I agree with Serinity that the rules and conditions of polygamy be a stickied thread where everyone can refer to. No need for more personal opinions that make a mockery to Islam.

Mods can close this thread now, please.

 

[Freedom]

]Exactly. A man cannot even have someone look at his wife but he can go having more than one wife.[/B] It was different in prophets (pbuh) time and I respect that I'm not against it or anything coz in some cases it should be allowed BUT if it's just for his desires then it is just a selfish act why would he run after someone else when his wife is doing everything to please him

This is the worst "logic". How did you even make a connection between those two things?

 

[Serinity]

Your ideas and thinking is unislamic.

Allah's Laws is Supreme, its above the rest and whatever man made laws and personal opinions there are, it means nothing when it comes to what Allah swt has allowed and disallowed.

It is important that you and others like you acknowledge such attitude that you have, belongs to your opinion and it doesnt hold any weight. This, Im telling you nicely and no way mean to be harsh, but I felt the need to say what is right because no one can make haram what Allah has made halal and likewise you cant make halal which Allah has made haram.

I agree with Serinity that the rules and conditions of polygamy be a stickied thread where everyone can refer to. No need for more personal opinions that make a mockery to Islam.

Mods can close this thread now, please.

Questioning Allah SWT's laws can lead to kufr "why do we have to pray 5 times a day, not 2 times?" "Why do women have to cover more than men?"

we are created differently. And I don't think, that a husband having 4 wives is the same as a wife having 4 husbands. There is no logic in that. If it was the same, Allah SWT would have permitted it, He SWT did not, therefore it is not the same.

May Allah SWT forgive us all for whatever bad we said. Ameen

In conclusion: Polygamy is a sunnah like anyother sunnah. Anyone who insults a sunnah, has insulted the Prophet SAW, and anyone who insults the Prophet SAW, in any way, be it the sunnah or whatever. Has committed kufr, afaik. If someone insults the prophet SAW, he has also insulted Allah SWT.

Both man and woman have jealousy, but that does not justify the condemnation of a sunnah, in this case Polygamy. To question Allah SWT's law and say "how come Allah allowed men this and not for women too?" can be kufr. Allah SWT knows better than us, so to question Allah SWT is blissful ignorance.
And Allah SWT knows best.

 

[Umm Abed]

Questioning Allah SWT's laws can lead to kufr "why do we have to pray 5 times a day, not 2 times?" "Why do women have to cover more than men?"

we are created differently. And I don't think, that a husband having 4 wives is the same as a wife having 4 husbands. There is no logic in that. If it was the same, Allah SWT would have permitted it, He SWT did not, therefore it is not the same.

May Allah SWT forgive us all for whatever bad we said. Ameen

In conclusion: Polygamy is a sunnah like anyother sunnah. Anyone who insults a sunnah, has insulted the Prophet SAW, and anyone who insults the Prophet SAW, in any way, be it the sunnah or whatever. Has committed kufr, afaik. If someone insults the prophet SAW, he has also insulted Allah SWT.

Both man and woman have jealousy, but that does not justify the condemnation of a sunnah, in this case Polygamy. To question Allah SWT's law and say "how come Allah allowed men this and not for women too?" can be kufr. Allah SWT knows better than us, so to question Allah SWT is blissful ignorance.
And Allah SWT knows best.

Thats what I dont get, like why question Allah's laws? If they dont want to do it or not doing it then fine, but to question and find fault, that is wrong. It is true that having 4 husbands is not the same as 4 wives. Allah has set out laws which are pure in precision, there is wisdom in every shar'i ruling, but many cannot comprehend.

May Allah save us all from blasphemous statements and guide us all, ameen.

 

[Serinity]

Thats what I dont get, like why question Allah's laws? If they dont want to do it or not doing it then fine, but to question and find fault, that is wrong. It is true that having 4 husbands is not the same as 4 wives. Allah has set out laws which are pure in precision, there is wisdom in every shar'i ruling, but many cannot comprehend.

May Allah save us all from blasphemous statements and guide us all, ameen.

May Allah SWT guide us all. Ameen.

And ameen.

 

[abumuslim82]

Thats what I dont get, like why question Allah's laws? If they dont want to do it or not doing it then fine, but to question and find fault, that is wrong. It is true that having 4 husbands is not the same as 4 wives. Allah has set out laws which are pure in precision, there is wisdom in every shar'i ruling, but many cannot comprehend.

May Allah save us all from blasphemous statements and guide us all, ameen.

Salaam

Ameen.

Its kuffaar on here trying to mislead Muslims, one of the battles they fighting, media warfare.


Anyway, ALHAMDULILLAH, I was driving to work just now and heard a precious saying of Umar r.a. regarding muslim and kuffaar,.on a bayaan. Gona open a thread just now, please read and encourage all to read. InshaALLAH.

 

[abumuslim82]

May Allah SWT guide us all. Ameen.

And ameen.

Ameen

 

[abumuslim82]

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I dont think he meant it in that way. And brother the prophet pbuh had reasons to have more than one wife one is to show us people that it's ok for a man to marry a non virgin, widow and have interracial marriages etc prophet pbuh didn't even get married the 2nd time when his first wife was alive. No one here is saying it's wrong but the man should consider about his wife and her feelings shouldn't he?? I personally find it wrong if someone wants to marry another woman coz they can't lower their gaze that's his fault not his wives but then he should go to his wife and complete his needs.

If you are muslim, u are misguided. Please go and seek proper knowledge from authentic books.

 

[abumuslim82]

This is the worst "logic". How did you even make a connection between those two things?

Lol, she either ignorant or a spy

 

[Umm Abed]

Salaam

Ameen.

Its kuffaar on here trying to mislead Muslims, one of the battles they fighting, media warfare.


Anyway, ALHAMDULILLAH, I was driving to work just now and heard a precious saying of Umar r.a. regarding muslim and kuffaar,.on a bayaan. Gona open a thread just now, please read and encourage all to read. InshaALLAH.

Wassalam.

I just hope that if they are new to Islam then they should make an effort in learning its teachings, so, if something is said out of context which is against Islam then it must be corrected, insha'allah we all make effort.

 

[Serinity]

One lesson:

Absolute equality is, afaik, unwise, unintelligent, and unislamic. men and women are different, therefore different rulings to both gender, etc. Afaik.

Every man and woman will be dealt justly, and none will be judged based on gender.

May Allah SWT forgive us. Ameen.
And Allah SWT knows best.