My wife has gone, back to Allah

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Subhanallah
inalillahi Wa ina ilayhi rajioon. May Allah grant her jannahtul firdous, and bring you strength.
I'm so saddened by your loss, but remember patience is at the first stroke of calamity. (Its not as easy as it sounds subhanallah) but the reward is so great.
 
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imsad

inna lillah wainailahi rajiun..

may Allah forgive her sins and grant her higher ranks in jannah.. and may He give you and your family sabr..
 
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'oon

I do not know what to say.


You have shared much about your Dear Wife and you pain is shared by all of us

We have all lost a sister my dear Brother.

May Allah(swt) grant you the strength to pass through this time of pain with the utmost of speed and may your wife receive the Blessings of the Martyrs
 
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وَلَنَبْلُوَنَّكُم بِشَيْءٍ مِّنَ الْخَوفْ وَالْجُوعِ وَنَقْصٍ مِّنَ الاٌّمَوَالِ وَالاٌّنفُسِ وَالثَّمَرَتِ وَبَشِّرِ الصَّـبِرِينَ - الَّذِينَ إِذَآ أَصَـبَتْهُم مُّصِيبَةٌ قَالُواْ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّـآ إِلَيْهِ رَجِعونَ - أُولَـئِكَ عَلَيْهِمْ صَلَوَتٌ مِّن رَّبْهِمْ وَرَحْمَةٌ وَأُولَـئِكَ هُمُ الْمُهْتَدُونَ

And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient,
Who, when disaster strikes them, say, "Indeed we belong to Allah , and indeed to Him we will return."
Those are the ones upon whom are blessings from their Lord and mercy. And it is those who are the [rightly] guided. (2:155-157)

I saw the thread title, and I just knew and my heart sank. Innaa lillaahi wa innaa ilayhi raaji'oon. "Indeed we belong to Allah , and indeed to Him we will return."

May Allah grant our sister the highest abode in paradise without reckoning, and may she be saved from the punishment of the grave and may her grave be a garden from the gardens of paradise. May Allah grant you and all your family, sabr and strength at this difficult time. Be strong for your children. May Allah reward you for your excellentness towards her, and may this be an example and inspiration for us all, aameen.

Abu Sa'id and abu Huraira reported that they heard Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: Never a believer is stricken with discomfort, hardship or illness, grief or even with mental worry except that his sins are expiated for him. ... (Sahih Muslim)

May your wife's illness have served as an expiation and a means of nearness to Allah for her, aameen.

May Allah reunite you all in Jannat al Firdous, aameen.

And I ask Allah, by all His Beautiful Names and Attributes, that He accept all the du3as the brothers and sisters are making here.

Aameen thumma aameen ya Rabb al 'Aalameen.

"Verily to Allaah belongs what He took, and to Him belongs what He gave, and everything with Him has an appointed time..and then he :saws: ordered patience and to hope for Allah's reward" (Bukhari and Muslim)

May Allaah magnify your reward, make better your solace and forgive your deceased. (an-Nawawi)

There are no words that change events, but please accept our sincerest and heartfelt condolences from your IB family, and know that we share in the pain and sadness of your loss.
 
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Inna lillahi wa-inna ilayhi raajioon,

I am deeply saddened by your loss akhi.

There is very little that can compare to the pain of losing one, so loved.
But know, dear brother, that the sorrow and pain of separation that you are feeling today, will surely, by the will of Allah, heal with time.
Even though your beloved may no longer be with you in this temporary life, she will always be in the hearts and minds of you and your family.

I am reminded of the fact that in the last week, she used to often mention to 'let her go'.
To me, it feels that in the same way that Allah Taa'la desired her return......she too, desired to meet her Rabb - Allahu alim.

We make duaa that, by the will and mercy of Allah, she is in a far better place – far away from the pain and trials that she endured in this dunya - and already experiencing such pleasures that we, on this earth, cannot even imagine.

Remind yourself akhi, that we are all on a journey towards this same destination.

We don’t really say ‘good-bye’......In shaa Allah, it is just a matter of time, before we are once again united with our beloveds – for eternity.


May Allah (subhanawataála) fill the qabr of our beloved sister with noor, and the beautiful fragrance of Jannah, and grant her the highest status of Jannah.

And may He grant you and your family strength and sabr, and may this temporary separation be the means of continuing to strive for al-aakhirah, our true and final abode.
Ameen

You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.
And indeed, Allah azza wajjal is with you, through this difficult time.
In His remembrance, every difficulty will surely be eased.



:wasalam:
 
:sl: Sad to hear brother. Stay strong. May Allah forgive her sins and grant her jannatul firdaus without questioning. Aameen.
 
salaam

Inna lillahi wa'inna ilaihi raji'oon

may allah swt give her the highest station in paradise and give you ease in your difficult time

ameen

peace
 
I am soo sorry to hear this. Inna lillahi wa inna ilahi rajiun.
You have been an amazing husband, we all know it. May Allah accept and rewards all your efforts. May He forgive your wife and reunite you guys in Jannatul Firdous. Ameen.
 
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'oon :cry: May Allah grant her al jannah firdaus. I followed your thread whole time and I am so shocked right know. :cry: I am so sorry for your loss brother.
 
Inna lillahi was inna illaihir rajioon

Ameen to all Duas.


Brother remember Allah is most just and He will never let go the reward of anyone. You and wife had been great partners to each other and He is the one who we remember during hardships.
 
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'oon

:cry:

May Allah give your wife a place in the highest level of paradise and bring you together again in the hereafter. May He grant you and your family strength and patience during this time. Ameeen
 
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raje'oon. May Allah grant her highest place in the heaven and give you and your family patience. imsad Indeed this, losing a loved one is one of the biggest trials of life. Stay strong, aakhi. :cry:
 
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its very sad news...Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raje'oon
we all have to meet Allah some are earlier some will later but will sure...
may Allah SWT grant you sabr on this accident. ameen.
 
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Inna-Lillahi-wa-inna-ilaihi-rajiun

Indeed to Him we belong and surely unto God is our return.



Few Quotes from this brother below:
We didn't know what would happen to us until something happen to us.

When I married my wife I was never thinking that something would be happen to her. She was a beautiful woman, and frankly, it made me proud. But now, cancer that attack her bone has made her paralyzed from the waist down, and she has lost her beauty.

But I'm never thinking to divorce her. I know, what happen to her is a taqdeer (destiny) that has been written by Allah, and I didn't have power to prevent it.

It's not easy to live as a husband who have a wife like this. But Alhamdulillah, Allah gives me an amazing power, something that called love. Yes, I still and always love my wife. Even I love her more than before. This is the amazing power that makes her still has a will to survive.

http://www.islamicboard.com/advice-support/134315932-im-still-hoping-my-wife-will-better.html (I'm still hoping my wife will be better)


Brother, try to see your problem from different point of view. Imagine if the person that got accident was not your wife but you. And now your wife ask divorce. What's you feel?.

May Allah give love in your heart.
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Although I've ever close with few girls, my first love was with a girl from a town in south of my city. I really love her and really wanted to marry her. She loves me too. But there were many misunderstanding between us that later made her decide not to marry me. Then she married another guy, and I married a girl who was my classmate in highschool. That was my story.

My wife know about the first woman who I wanted to marry. This is why she asked me "if that woman was divorced, would you marry her?". I told my wife I didn't know about her. My wife asked me again "IF she was divorced and you know it, would you marry her?". So I told my wife "No!". She look happy because she knew I was honest with my answer.

I know, if the situation that asked by my wife really happen, I marry the woman who ever came to my life although just for second wife, it would really destroy my wife heart. No! I will not let it happen. I will never hurt my wife heart.

That woman never back to my life. But frankly, there was someone else wife that ever contacted me through messages and tried to bring back some memories. I respond her although I knew that's wrong. There was a guilty feeling that made me felt I must respond her, or I would hurt her again. But later I felt the bigger guilty feeling. I felt guilty to my wife. So, I cut my contact with that woman. I did it for my wife.

Guilty feeling. This is "the forgotten factor" that can make us trapped in relationship with someone from the past. We feel we should do something to make her life better. We can tell everyone that we do it for the sake of Allah, but if we must honest, then we will realize that we do it for the sake of ourselves, To redeem our guilty feeling because we think we have made her life unhappy.

We should not forget that after someone has gone from our life, then what happened to her is not our responsibility anymore. That's happened because decision that made by herself. And we should not forget to someone who now with us, our wives!. Our responsibility now is only to our wives.

We are not alone now. But we have wives. Imagine what our wives will feel if we do something to please another woman.

Maybe we ever hurt someone or few in our past, intentionally or accidentally. And it made us feel guilty. But the way to redeem this guilty feeling is not with do something for the story that has been end. We cannot change the past. The right way to redeem our guilty feeling is with loving our wives now as best as we can. They are the women that given by Allah for us.
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imsad No way, I always somehow thought she would make it.

My brother, we didn't know each other well, but your loss is felt nevertheless. My condoleances. You were the perfect husband all brothers looked up to for inspiration, and now you are a husband no more :cry:
 
people don't stop being brothers, mothers sisters or husbands when their loved ones pass!

:w:
 
I am so sorry for your loss, and also full of admiration for the courage with which both of you have faced this trial. May you find the strength for the time ahead.
 

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