The Marriage Thread

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does anybody know if theres a hadith that says something like its qadr whom you are going to get married to? like its predestined and dried(i mean it cant be changed)?
i will be grateful if someone can quote this hadith..
jazakumullah.
 
Malaak said:
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does anybody know if theres a hadith that says something like its qadr whom you are going to get married to? like its predestined and dried(i mean it cant be changed)?
i will be grateful if someone can quote this hadith..
jazakumullah.
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Yes i wanna know too . Nice question.

My brother once told me that god knows our decisions and its up to us to choose . And that qadar is written for birth and death that can't be changed.? But not marriage?

And really if everything in life is written and that it can't be changed then we will be So lazy to do anything ?
 
Getoffmyback said:
Yes i wanna know too . Nice question.

My brother once told me that god knows our decisions and its up to us to choose . And that qadar is written for birth and death that can't be changed.? But not marriage?

And really if everything in life is written and that it can't be changed then we will be So lazy to do anything ?
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Answer to your question can be found here;

Confus1ion said:
Are there any Qur'aan verses or hadiths that show that Allah has written who we will end up getting married to?

Regardless of how many complications come in the way or how we will meet the other half, and other stuff that can affect this very important decision we make in our life?

Please respond
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Answer:

Therefore, marriage is obviously predestined and Allah has written that we will get married, have children, and when people choose their spouses they achieve and meet what Allah has willed.

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Like all matters, marriage and divorce are among the things that Allaah predestined for man before his creation. A man will not marry anyone except the woman Allaah has predestined for him, nor will their marriage continue if Allaah had decreed their separation.

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Marriage is one of the things that Allaah has decreed. The person whom you will marry is known to Allaah: He knows who he is, when he was born, where and when he will die, how he will be towards you, and other details. All of that is known to Allaah and He has written it in al-Lawh al-Mahfooz (the Book of Decrees), and it will inevitably come to pass as Allaah has decreed.

If Allaah has decreed that you will marry one person, but you choose someone else, then no matter how long it takes, you will marry that person. But your marriage to someone else is also decreed, because there is nothing that is not decreed by Allaah. It may be decreed for a woman to marry So and so the son of So and so, and he comes to propose marriage but she refuses him, and marries someone else, then he (the second man) dies or divorces her, then she accepts the first one. All of that is decreed, and it is decreed for her to marry So and so the son of So and so after initially refusing him and after some experience or trials etc.

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http://www.islamicboard.com/advice-support/134287839-has-allah-written-them-us-4.html#post1221588
 
^jazakillah khair sis for the help! :) it pretty much explains it...
but still its mostly interpretations...i was looking for something more concrete like a hadith specifically about marriage and qadr. i understand qadr is something we shouldnt ask too many questions about?,right. :hmm:
thanks for the help though, greatly appreciated!!:thumbs_up
 
Banu_Hashim said:
That's true. But watch how the subscription of marriage threads falls to zero as people start to get married. It only interests the bachelors! lol.. Then the subscription of how ot deal with post marriage increases...
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Lol well, that's just something you cannot avoid...:skeleton:
 
Getoffmyback said:
I checked this site ---.com .

I registered not for the intention of finding a wife .just curiousity .

I tried to message a girl then they directed me to another page asking for my credit card . Eh yulla nterouni jeyeh.

Alt f4.
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Most things in life aren't free, not surprised they are asking for money, its supply and demand....
 
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Banu_Hashim said:
That's true. But watch how the subscription of marriage threads falls to zero as people start to get married. It only interests the bachelors! lol.. Then the subscription of how ot deal with post marriage increases...
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Already making up a name for that one hihi;D


Getoffmyback said:
I checked this site qiran.com .

I registered not for the intention of finding a wife .just curiousity .

I tried to message a girl then they directed me to another page asking for my credit card . Eh yulla nterouni jeyeh.

Alt f4.
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OMG

A brother actually posted this one on a thread I made:
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Maybe that one will feed your curiosity :)
 
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Rashad said:
Especially for females in this day and age, they should maybe not get married so young, but keep their eyes open for any potential choices. It's vital, because once you cross that age limit... It's hard to find that perfect Romeo.
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Really whats the age limit for marriage?. :><:
 
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I'm not sure about ahadeeth on Qadr and marriage, but when it comes to love, a lot of scholars like Ibn Hazm mention this hadeeth which refers to the event of the Covenant that Allaah took from everyone (see al-'Araaf; 172):

“Souls are troops collected together and those who familiarized with each other (in the heaven from where these come) would have affinity with one another (in the world) and those amongst them who opposed each other (in the Heaven) would also be divergent (in the world)” (Muslim).
 
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aadil77 said:
theres part time courses as well, and they don't necessarily have to have a family of their own during education, can wait till studies are over
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Part time courses? In some only. I assume they resemble distance-learning which needs even a bigger amount of concentration and efforts so I wouldn't encourage it (especially considering the time needed for study).

I agree that a degree shouldn't be an obstacle when it involves marriage, but note it also works the other way.

Islamically the father is meant to provide for her, if not her brother, if not her uncle etc etc. You don't need a degree to get a job to help with bills, but again nothin wrong with havin a degree it just shouldn't delay/prevent a woman getting married.
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The idea of a father working to provide his 50 year-old daughter doesn't quite fascinate me ...at all.
 
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Muraad said:
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I'm not sure about ahadeeth on Qadr and marriage, but when it comes to love, a lot of scholars like Ibn Hazm mention this hadeeth which refers to the event of the Covenant that Allaah took from everyone (see al-'Araaf; 172):

“Souls are troops collected together and those who familiarized with each other (in the heaven from where these come) would have affinity with one another (in the world) and those amongst them who opposed each other (in the Heaven) would also be divergent (in the world)” (Muslim).
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I heard this goes for people you like or dislike as well and Allah swt knows best. People you make your friends and those who you avoid. Like in that heaven you meet souls who you like and those who you dont like. When you meet them in this world you think the same about them as you did in that heaven they mention above. Interesting seriously :)

And I do think woman should have a degree, self-development you know..this way you can keep up with your husband.
Make him feel less smart muhahaha (evil laugh)
 
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_muslim_ said:
The idea of a father working to provide his 50 year-old daughter doesn't quite fascinate me ...at all.
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Don't fascinate me either - not my rules though, but like I said you don't need a degree to get a job, although it is better. Again not sayin anything wrong with a sister havin a degree, its just that it shouldn't get in the way of marriage
 

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