:bism:
Hi, bro. (Btw, seriously not judging you, bro. Just want to understand and help.)
Hey, it is hard to counsel you when you haven't told you why you think it is a burden than pleasure or peace. So, why don't we start from then?
Then, we can kind of work our way to when you started first having these thoughts?
:wa:
I feel lie the praying and everything.
I feel like its just an obligation.
I don't feel probably any different while doing it than just hangin out with friends.
I don't have a spiritual connection to god.
And thats what I found in Christianity.
I know its a little corrupt.
And that is really my only problem.
But the thing is I don't like Islam either.
:bism:
I can understand that, bro. About the praying part feeling hard.
However, there's a good news: Something very similar was felt by a Companion r.a. and he came to the Prophet sallalahu alayhi wasallam and told him that the obligations of Islam were too much for him and to give him instead something easy which he can practice. And Prophet sallalahu alayhi wasallam advised the man to make zikr.
So, similarly, bro, if you are finding Islam too much, why don't you just do small zikr here and there? After all, trying can only benefit and absolutely no loss.
As to lack of spiritual connection to God, Prophet sallalahu alayhi wasallam also indicated to us from time to time we may feel too much spiritually low and the thing to do then is to ask Allah for a renewal of iman. Have you tried making that dua? Again, can only benefit.
I mean, you're here, asking for advice, right? So, that means you have doubts about what you think you might want to do.
Also, tell me about the spiritual connection you felt in Christianity.
Maybe I can help because, as my sheikh used to say, Islam is an ocean, and in order to get its pearls and gems, we have to dive.
:wa:
I know. So I hope no one judge him.By the way, he sounds like an awesome lil bro! Just letting everyone know!
I know. So I hope no one judge him.
In Shaa Allah, I'll be back with a post.
There are pearls in the ocean, but you would not realize it if you didn't know about pearl. There is love in Islam, there is peace in Islam. But you would not realize it if you didn't have love and peace in your hearts. So, try to grow love and peace in your heart, and throw out all hatred.
As a reminder for us all, I'll restate the Islamic concept of God here:
There is only One God. He alone should be worshipped. He is our Creator, Sustainer, and Lord.
He does not beget, nor is He begotten. He has no sons, daughters, spouses, siblings, parents, cousins, or relatives of any sort.
He is eternal and does not die. He does not depend on anyone/anything yet we all depend on Him. He is free of all want and need.
There is nothing like Him. He is all Hearing, all Seeing, all Knowing, all Powerful, Incomparable, the Creator of the Universe.
He did not/does not, become flesh, dwell in human or animal bodies, nor are there any incarnations of Him. He is not mixed up in His creation in any way.
He is not composed of persons, nor a trinity. There are no secondary, lesser, greater, equal, or multiple gods, nor any intermediaries. And no denying of God's existence either.
There are no sharers, associates, persons or parts whatsoever in His exclusive Divinity. Simply, He is One, in every sense.
As you can see, the concept is clear, simple, logical, makes sense, and befits the Majesty of God.
Islam is about worshipping the creator, not the creation. It is about knowing Jesus (peace be on him) as God taught, not as Paul et al taught. Islam literally means to submit and to surrender. It also means to enter into peace. The idea is that you’re in peace with someone when you’re not fighting or opposing them. Islam is to enter into submission before God and so to enter into peace with Him, the most Wise and all-Powerful, the One whose Will the whole universe obeys. This is what the purpose of true religion has always been and what every man of God has called towards. And this is the call of every person’s nature too, and the reason you consider good as good and bad as bad. Islam is therefore to enter into peace with your own nature too. The beginning of this submission, Islam, in its outward form is to submit to the truth that you know inside yourself, that there is only one God, and bear witness to it. Everything apart from the Creator is, like yourself, a created being and always in need of its Maker, and therefore unworthy of your worship.
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All the prophets God sent to guide humankind taught that people the same message that God sent them to convey: that people should submit wholeheartedly to Allah and worship Him and Him alone, without any associates in, or parts to, His Exclusive Divinity, and to obey the prophet. They taught that people should be under no misperception that they can commit themselves to Allah as their Lord, and then combine this with accepting others as their Lord, or associating others in His Divinity, in whatever way. They taught that we should strive hard to translate our belief in the One True God into practice, by obeying Allah and the messengers He sent, who were also role models and examples for us, showing us practically how to put the guidance they were sent with into practice in our daily lives, explaining the scriptures, warning against wrong-doing, giving good tidings, and giving additional legislation from Allah.
So Islam is not a new faith, but is the same ultimate universal truth that God revealed to all the prophets, including Noah, Abraham, Moses and Jesus (peace be on them), and the same thing they all taught. Thus Islam is not named after a specific person (like Christianity, Buddhism), nor after a certain race or place (like Judaism, Hinduism), but is named by God Himself, the meaning loosely translating as 'submission to God', which is what every Prophet and their righteous followers did, from amongst all times, places and peoples. That in itself is one fraction of the evidence that it was the way of all the Prophets from the beginning.
With time, the message got forgotten or corrupted. So people started worshipping other gods along with Him, made idols, said that God begot a son, said that certain people were incarnations of God, some rejected belief in God altogether, while others elevated the status of some prophets to divine, or at the other end, rejected or blasphemed some of the prophets. Whenever God's message got distorted by people, or forgotten, a new messenger was sent, not with any new or changed message, but reinforcing the actual message that God sent all the messengers with, the actual core beliefs that people were taught from the beginning of humanity, confirming the true parts of previous teachings and scriptures, and correcting wrong beliefs and misconceptions that had crept in. God required that whenever He sent a new messenger, that messenger should be followed along with any new scripture given to him. This chain of messengers culminates in prophet Muhammad (peace on him), who is the last and final prophet and messenger. Since his prophethood, God's message is available unchanged and unadulterated, for the entire world, until the end of time. He wasn't sent as prophet and messenger for a specific group of people and specific time (e.g. as Moses and Jesus were to the Children of Israel), but he was sent for all the world, for all time, until the Day of Judgement. Thus he is the last, not first, prophet of Islam; a messenger to all mankind, for now, and for all time to come. He is the messenger who must now be followed.
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Some people believe that there is a sense of overwhelming love, peace and joy and spiritual connection in Christianity, that is not found in Islam.
The sense of overwhelming love comes from this verse of the bible that is the missionaries' favourite:
"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life" (John 3:16)
They say that it is an act of the ultimate love, that God gave His son, for our sins. However, one has to look not very deep to see what the verse actually implies. It shows a God who did not forgive Adam (peace be on him) for eating from the tree, punishes other people for a sin they didn't commit, cuts off his relationship with them, makes them fall out of His grace, and makes them born into a state of sin, and then has to beget a son (who actually is him) killed in a torturous death to repair all of that. This is injustice ascribed to God. Also it limits God power. You see, in Islam, we believe that God forgives. God forgave Adam (peace be upon him), and guided him, and has sent guidance for us all, and can forgive us all, freely, when we repent sincerely and ask sincerely, resolving not to repeat past mistakes, and does not expect perfection from us, but simply for us to worship Him alone without any associates, persons or parts to His Exclusive Divinity, and to not ascribe divinity to anybody or anything else, and to do our very best and try our very hardest with all our heart, body and soul, to love and obey Him and the messengers He sent. His Mercy opening the doors to salvation and paradise.
Forgiveness does not require any type of sacrifice by God, or any purchase price. It is actually denigrating to God's Power that He should not be able to forgive or remove sins without begetting a son and then sacrificing the son. It ascribes imperfection to God. This is not forgiveness, but atonement. One thing pays the price for another. Perfection is being able to forgive, freely, abundantly, at will. That is perfection. Islam recognises God's power to forgive with just His Will. Some of the other religions seem to claim that forgiveness requires a purchase price and if we can't pay it, somebody else has to pay it on our behalf. In Islam, forgiveness comes without a purchase price or sacrifice. We do not/cannot: buy, sacrifice for, earn or steal it. It comes freely when we sincerely ask for forgiveness and truly repent, accepting God's will.
In Christianity, you go to God through Jesus (peace be on him). In Islam, we have a direct connection to God, at least five times a day plus more. What is more closer ad beautiful than that.
The joy they feel comes from believing that Jesus (peace be on him) died for their sins, and anything they do in this world is for joyful thanks. However, none of us can say, "We are saved". This is what the Day of Judgement is for. We strive with faith and deeds and obedience to God, do our best, and trust in His Promise, and His Justice, and hoping for His Mercy.
For Christians, this may be hard. They believe that by accepting Jesus (peace be upon him) as their saviour they have an assurance of salvation, and view the Islamic position on salvation as being one of uncertainty. As a rough (not exact) analogy, the Christian position, is like one sitting an exam, but somebody has said they'll take all your bad marks for you, and if you let them do that, you'll pass. In the world, this would be viewed as cheating and as unjust. Injustice cannot be ascribed to God. The Islamic position is that of one sitting an exam, doing their best, and then awaiting their results, based on what they've done, and of course hoping for the mercy of God.
We strive, and hope for God's Mercy and trust in Him, for none is more trustworthy than He, but for Christians, it is as though they must have a guarantee from God. We need no such guarantee, and do not feel in any way compromised by not having one, which is a key point where, as demonstrated, they try to catch Muslims. None of us would have a guarantee of passing an exam until we got our results, and this is no different. What greater thing is there than Gods Mercy? We try our best and hope for His Mercy and trust in His Promise, no guarantees needed, as He is not a human who will let us down, or be unjust, on the contrary we will not be wronged by even the spot on a date stone.
Please, let us know if this answers any of your queries.
May Allah keep you and us steadfast on the straight path and strengthen our faith in Him, ameen.
Yes following your emotions too much and ignoring rational decisioning probably is bad. But shouldnt religion make you feel good emotionally too?As Salaamu Alaikum
One step at a time, take all things with careful thought. It is not unusual for a Muslim to be tried with much temptation to leave Islam. The second step is to take responsibility for your beliefs. Do not become a blind follower of anything. Always verify all things through as many sources as you can find. Too many people base their choice of religion upon emotional feelings, not belief. Search and make Du'a, Ask Allaah(swt) to guide you in your search. Learn why many non-Muslims leave their religion and revert to Islam.
Now, with that said, it is my Du'a that you will be sincere in your intentions, you will verify all things with care and you will look closely as to why you want to leave Islam.
Yes following your emotions too much and ignoring rational decisioning probably is bad. But shouldnt religion make you feel good emotionally too?
Yes following your emotions too much and ignoring rational decisioning probably is bad. But shouldnt religion make you feel good emotionally too?
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