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Re: advise

just from reading your post, i didn't get the idea that this has anything to do with nikah, love etc etc. am i being too literal minded? you didn't refer to her as your girlfriend, but as a friend (girl).
anyway, if you really want to give dawah, i think lolwatever had good advice - try to find a sister to do it. if that fails, you may just have to let it go.
 
Re: advise

Asalamu Alaikum,

Bro, whatever the case is... you need to keep a restricted relationship with her... Tell her about Islam... thats fine... but do not jeapodize YOUR Islam... follow the guide lines...

If you call her to Islam... do not step outside of Islam to do it... Understand what I mean? Keep it halaal...

If you think you may like her than tell her about Islam... give her a direction to go on... give her resources.. and step back. It is Allah who guides.. you can only show her the direction...

W'salaamz

:) I agree, to search manfaat, have to be with something which is halal. Whatever intention you have, do it in halal way. And if you wanna marry her, then teach her, keep it halal, and then when she be muslim, marry her f he like you too. Great.
Btw. What is this sikh teaching? What they worship?Who is their GOd?And all? :offended:
 
Re: advise

just from reading your post, i didn't get the idea that this has anything to do with nikah, love etc etc. am i being too literal minded? you didn't refer to her as your girlfriend, but as a friend (girl).
anyway, if you really want to give dawah, i think lolwatever had good advice - try to find a sister to do it. if that fails, you may just have to let it go.

maybe they are mind reader... :giggling: :giggling:

for the 1st poster
btw...have a pure intention and try to give da'wah when there are people around....not when there are only two of you.
 
Re: advise

I agree with Br Digital. Show her the path and leave the rest to Allah.

"Verily you (O Muhammad) guide not whom you like, but Allah guides whom He wills. And he knows best those who are guided." [al-Qur’aan, al-Qasas(28):56]


There are many ways to give dawah without personal interaction. Some muslim organisation give free dawah material.. you can get some for her and leave the rest up to Allah.
 
Interacting with Nonmahram

I have a few questions : how much level of interaction with non-mahram is safe and Halal?
To be more specific if a Muslim women is working how should she interact with her male colleagues? In some societies hand shaking is considered as a way of introduction what should a muslimah do in that regard?
 
Re: Interacting with Nonmahram

If you can, you should let the person know that you can't shake hands because your religion teaches you not to be touched by men other than your husband. Some people believe, that if your intention is right, then its ok to shake hands because it's not like you want to touch them deliberately.
 
Re: Interacting with Nonmahram

:sl:

I work with non muslims males , and when I enter to islam , I decided no kiss and no shake hands with men.
So later my shahada, next day, I arrived to the job and explain them , that no more kiss or shake hands , or touch me for sumthing ...one of the boys got angry , but wasnt a problem for me , was his problem , but with the time he understand me , al hamdulilah , the others boys accpeted my decision ... but i was firm in my actitude , and when some muslim ( man) wants shake hands , i dont do it , i only say , as salaamu alaykum , and nothing else ...
 
Re: Interacting with Nonmahram

:sl:

I work with non muslims males , and when I enter to islam , I decided no kiss and no shake hands with men.
So later my shahada, next day, I arrived to the job and explain them , that no more kiss or shake hands , or touch me for sumthing ...one of the boys got angry , but wasnt a problem for me , was his problem , but with the time he understand me , al hamdulilah , the others boys accpeted my decision ... but i was firm in my actitude , and when some muslim ( man) wants shake hands , i dont do it , i only say , as salaamu alaykum , and nothing else ...


Alhamdulilallah. Good for you sister :)
 
Re: Interacting with Nonmahram

alsalamu alaikum. I have a question regarding interaction within a university. I am trying to convince my friend not to interact with guys (as friends) but she says she wants proof and its getting hard to convince her. It will be REALLY helpful if anyone could get me proof about the matter i.e that interaction with the opposite sex is haram in regards to friendship. Thank you and please let me know soon... :)
 
Re: Interacting with Nonmahram

alsalamu alaikum. I have a question regarding interaction within a university. I am trying to convince my friend not to interact with guys (as friends) but she says she wants proof and its getting hard to convince her. It will be REALLY helpful if anyone could get me proof about the matter i.e that interaction with the opposite sex is haram in regards to friendship. Thank you and please let me know soon... :)

:sl:

Here are few web links for you that might answer your question:)

http://www.islamawareness.net/Marriage/fatwa_03.html

http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/...h-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaE&cid=1119503543072
 
Re: Interacting with Nonmahram

The issue of friendship here has nothing to do with being Muslim or non-Muslim. You should not have taken Muslim or non-Muslim males as your friends. The Qur’an and the Sunnah have given us rules about relations between men and women.

There are two types of people: Mahram and non-Mahram. Mahram are those relatives between whom marriage is not allowed. Non-Mahram are those among whom marriage is permissible. Referring to this, Allah Almighty says: “ Forbidden unto you are your mothers, and your daughters, and your sisters, and your father's sisters, and your mother's sisters, and your brother's daughters and your sister's daughters, and your foster mothers, and your foster sisters, and your mothers-in-law, and your stepdaughters who are under your protection (born) of your women unto whom ye have gone in but if ye have not gone in unto them, then it is no sin for you (to marry their daughters) and the wives of your sons who (spring) from your own loins. And (it is forbidden unto you) that ye should have two sisters together, except what hath already happened (of that nature) in the past. Lo! Allah is ever Forgiving, Merciful.” (An-Nisaa’: 23)

Muslim men and women can socialize among the Mahrams, but not among the non-Mahrams. When men and women are in the presence of non-Mahrams then they must lower their gaze. Allah Almighty says: “And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and be modest, and to display of their adornment only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils over their bosoms, and not to reveal their adornment save to their own husbands or fathers or husbands fathers, or their sons or their husbands' sons, or their brothers or their brothers' sons or sisters sons, or their women, or their slaves, or male attendants who lack vigor, or children who know naught of women's nakedness. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And turn unto Allah together, O believers, in order that ye may succeed. And marry such of you as are solitary and the pious of your slaves and maid servants. If they be poor; Allah will enrich them of His bounty. Allah is of ample means, Aware.” (An-Nur: 30-31)

He Almighty also says: “O ye wives of the Prophet! Ye are not like any other women. If ye keep your duty (to Allah), then be not soft of speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease aspire (to you), but utter customary speech.” (Al-Ahzab: 32)

Hence it is clear that Islam does not allow Muslims to have friends from the opposite gender. Males should not have female friends and females should not have male friends. Non-Mahram males and females may talk to each other, but should not socialize or go out in parties.

A single male and female should never be together in a place where they are all alone, isolated without the access of any one else. Islam has given these rules to save men and women from committing sin or getting involved in situations where they might commit sin.

an excerpt from the link....http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/...h-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaE&cid=1119503543072
 
Re: Interacting with Nonmahram

Alsalamu Alaikum
Thank you for your reply, I do find it very useful and Insha'Allah may God guide us to the right path. :)
 
you allowed to be friends with a boy

hello everyone i jsut wanted to know are muslims allowed to be friends with boys or males dat are not ur relation. because in school i hav friends and some of them are boys and i was wondering if im allowed to be friends with them or not, some of them are really good friends and i dunt wana do soemfink against islam dat im nt allowed to do so plzz help me.

wasalam
 
Re: you allowed to be friends with a boy

erm sis ur not allowed 2b alone with non mahram or 'non relation' (as u put it).. n i guess ur not allowed 2 chat unecessarily with people of opposite gender.. (maybe sum1 else can giv that advise :-[ )

all the best sis!
salams
 
Re: you allowed to be friends with a boy

salaams sis,

balance is a really important thing these days.it is impossible in the 21st century to run away from boys. they are evrywhere. we have study with them, work with them, talk to them, and even in sme desperate cases, we need to touch them.the thing is, you need to be as conservative and modest as possible when u are around them. dnt blow it out of proportion.time brings people closer together, so try not to spend too much time with ur male friends. u can still have them, but only contact them or refer to them when absolutely necesarry, like none of ur female friends can help u...get me? you should continue to say hi, how are u and stuff...coz, if u dnt, muslim girls will be labelled snobs and even more fitnah will start about us. :)
hope i could be of some assistance...:)

wassalam...
 
Re: you allowed to be friends with a boy

hello everyone i jsut wanted to know are muslims allowed to be friends with boys or males dat are not ur relation. because in school i hav friends and some of them are boys and i was wondering if im allowed to be friends with them or not, some of them are really good friends and i dunt wana do soemfink against islam dat im nt allowed to do so plzz help me.

wasalam
In general everything that has a high probability of leading towards sin is considered sin by itself. So exposing yourself to a situation where sinfull feellings (desires outside mariage) can easely grow is not tolerated. And it's not really smart either to tempt oneself like that. That's like saying: "Ok mommy I won't eat candy before dinner, but can I at least take the candy up to my room and look at the candy while no-one is around?"
the example might be stupid, but I think you get my point, right?
 
Re: Interacting with Nonmahram

The issue of friendship here has nothing to do with being Muslim or non-Muslim. You should not have taken Muslim or non-Muslim males as your friends. The Qur’an and the Sunnah have given us rules about relations between men and women.

There are two types of people: Mahram and non-Mahram. Mahram are those relatives between whom marriage is not allowed. Non-Mahram are those among whom marriage is permissible. Referring to this, Allah Almighty says: “ Forbidden unto you are your mothers, and your daughters, and your sisters, and your father's sisters, and your mother's sisters, and your brother's daughters and your sister's daughters, and your foster mothers, and your foster sisters, and your mothers-in-law, and your stepdaughters who are under your protection (born) of your women unto whom ye have gone in but if ye have not gone in unto them, then it is no sin for you (to marry their daughters) and the wives of your sons who (spring) from your own loins. And (it is forbidden unto you) that ye should have two sisters together, except what hath already happened (of that nature) in the past. Lo! Allah is ever Forgiving, Merciful.” (An-Nisaa’: 23)

Muslim men and women can socialize among the Mahrams, but not among the non-Mahrams. When men and women are in the presence of non-Mahrams then they must lower their gaze. Allah Almighty says: “And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and be modest, and to display of their adornment only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils over their bosoms, and not to reveal their adornment save to their own husbands or fathers or husbands fathers, or their sons or their husbands' sons, or their brothers or their brothers' sons or sisters sons, or their women, or their slaves, or male attendants who lack vigor, or children who know naught of women's nakedness. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And turn unto Allah together, O believers, in order that ye may succeed. And marry such of you as are solitary and the pious of your slaves and maid servants. If they be poor; Allah will enrich them of His bounty. Allah is of ample means, Aware.” (An-Nur: 30-31)

He Almighty also says: “O ye wives of the Prophet! Ye are not like any other women. If ye keep your duty (to Allah), then be not soft of speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease aspire (to you), but utter customary speech.” (Al-Ahzab: 32)

Hence it is clear that Islam does not allow Muslims to have friends from the opposite gender. Males should not have female friends and females should not have male friends. Non-Mahram males and females may talk to each other, but should not socialize or go out in parties.

A single male and female should never be together in a place where they are all alone, isolated without the access of any one else. Islam has given these rules to save men and women from committing sin or getting involved in situations where they might commit sin.

an excerpt from the link....http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/...h-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaE&cid=1119503543072

clear explanation... jazakallahu khair :thumbs_up
 
Re: you allowed to be friends with a boy

umm yh i guess in a way ,i do try 2 stay away from them but they don't leave me alone, they are always chatting and laughing with me ,i mean i was friends with them before i converted to islam, and i don't have the heart to say leave me alone i don't wana be friends with you,das horrible n i dont fink i can do it. i know im nt allowed 2 stay friends with boys but sometimes you cant help it, but i wish 2 stop being friends with them even though i know it will be hard:cry:
 
internet Relationship

I met this guy over the net 3 years ago. Well one night we were chatting on msn and he said “do you went to meet up” I said ok which was stupid. Well the thing is he’s a Muslim and we have been meeting up for about a month right now talking about Islam and one day he said marry me and I said no. well he got angry and 2 weeks from that day he’s everywhere I go he’s stalking me he knows were I live last night the something broke the window in my bedroom we told the police they just said bring proof I don’t know what proof they went?

Am so scared I don’t know what to I can’t walk on the street with my baby all I do is look around to see if he is there. I always see him in the mall can’t leave the house not even go to college am scared he might kill me.

I don’t know what do... please give me am advice. I just went to leave the country. Please help me am Depressed I can’t eat at all I just feel sick :cry:
 

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